My greatest act of self-love was the day I broke up with alcohol. By Alyson Premo.

Happy Valentine's Day, mamas! When I broke up with alcohol FOR GOOD on 11/14/16, I finally chose to love myself. I was worthy of a life that didn't include lying, secrets, shame, anxiety, and regret. The life I'm worthy of is filled with love, purpose, freedom, and strength.

You are SO worthy of a life without alcohol, but you have to take that first step to show yourself that you are. The 60 Day Alcohol-Free Challenge provided by me (@sobermomcoach) is a great first step to be surrounded by other mothers on a similar journey, to receive daily support, and daily lessons to ENJOY this alcohol-free life, not view it as deprivation. Because that's what it comes down to loving ourselves so that we don't destroy ourselves physically, mentally, and spiritually. We only get one body, so let's start treating it with the love and respect it deserves.

Join the waitlist for the challenge by clicking here to be the first to know when doors re-open and be one of the first TWO mamas to register for an extra special bonus that I've never given before. This bonus alone is a $347 value. You don't want to miss it!

The belief that alcohol makes parenting easier is false. By Alyson Premo.

Who even came up with the notion that alcohol makes parenting easier? Seriously, I want to know. When did this notion of drinking a substance to calm and relax us enough to be able to handle our kids pop up?

All I know is it's grown like wildfire in the past 5 years, but it's based on a lie. Alcohol DOES NOT make parenting easier.

Waking up with a raging hangover and having to deal with your kids. I remember those days. Barely making it out of bed, and if I did, I was hugging the toilet for dear life. Then I had my son saying, mommy, 50 times, and I reacted in a manner that I wouldn't have if I hadn't drank. I was miserable and taking it out on him. What's worse is that it was self-inflicted. He didn't do anything; he was just being a child.

I was irritable. Anxious. Tired. Feeling like a piece of hot garbage physically and emotionally. And no one else caused me to feel this way. I did it to myself.

This belief that alcohol is the key to getting through motherhood is downright false. Sure, it may give you a temporary escape from the kids fighting, the constant laundry, and having to do it all. But what it really comes down to, though, is you're overwhelmed.

There are so many other things that you can do for yourself to make it so that you're not just putting a band-aid on how you're feeling but actually resolving the core issue. If you're overwhelmed, don't run to a substance that will ultimately cause more overwhelm. Solve the real problem in the first place. Get a laundry service. Order your groceries through Instacart. Have your significant other/friend/family member watch the kids so you can do something by yourself. Set aside 30 minutes in your day to read, meditate, exercise, draw, or whatever activity you want that will recharge you and give you the space you need to decompress.

Give it a chance, and I promise you that you'll see alcohol isn't the answer to parenting.

I have ONE spot left for the 30 Day 1:1 Coaching Program. This month's bonus is I'm including the 60 Day Alcohol-Free Challenge for FREE when you enroll in 1:1 coaching. Message me (@sobermomcoach) to see if it would be a good fit for you!

I've built more relationships with people about being open about my struggle than I ever could have if I were still pretending like I had it all together. By Alyson Premo.

I've built more relationships with people about being open about my struggle than I ever could have if I were still pretending like I had it all together.

Those superficial relationships built just on alcohol are old news. Give me substance and quality. I don't need gossip, negativity, and drama, which is what I thrived off of when I was drinking. Don't get me wrong, I may still scroll a long comment thread for the comedic aspect, but I'm not in there stewing and becoming so angry that it affects my quality of life.

My life is messy sometimes, and of course, I'm not perfect because no one is, but these days I'm content with staying in my own lane, helping others, and building relationships with others who have the same values and interests as me.

Back in my drinking days, all I had was drinking. How sad is that? Alcohol was my best friend, hobby, and it controlled my daily life. So, of course, I tended to surround myself with others who were drinking a lot because I needed that justification to keep alcohol in my life. But there was no deep connection there. The connection was alcohol, that's it. And I"m not saying every relationship or friendship I had when I was drinking was superficial because that's not the case.

What I am saying is that if alcohol is the glue that's holding your relationship or friendship together, then when you remove alcohol, you're going to know.

People change. Lifestyles change. And that's ok. But I promise you I've built better relationships and friendships from being honest and sharing my struggles, rather than pretending that I have it all together. So if you lose a friend or a significant other when you remove alcohol, there are so many other people who will be attracted to who you are - struggles and all.

This is a topic I discuss a lot with my 1:1 clients. If this is something you're struggling with, I invite you to check out the 30 Day 1:1 Program (Bye, Bye Booze...Hello Freedom!). We talk through this issue and so many others so that you can be empowered by your decision to remove alcohol from your life instead of feeling like there's something wrong with you because there isn't.

I have ONE spot left for the program! Message me (@sobermomcoach), and we can chat to see if it would be a good fit for you!

Dismantling mommy wine culture. By Alyson Premo.

We are dismantling mommy wine culture, one sober mom at a time.

Do you feel the shift? Do you see mothers waking up to the harmful effects of equating motherhood with alcohol? 

I certainly do! Between the sober curious movement and more women sharing their stories, I feel a huge sense of momentum in the right direction. Between celebrities like Chrissy Tiegen and Braunwynn from the Real Housewives documenting her sobriety journey for all to see, we finally see the hard work and vulnerability of many in the sober community paying off.

There's the key right there being open and showing others that an alcohol-free life isn't a boring life. It doesn't mean your life is over. It's actually the complete opposite. Your life just begins when you ditch alcohol. 

The alcohol-induced haze is gone, which leads us to find what truly gives us a sense of purpose in life. Of course, removing alcohol doesn't just bring out the good. It brings out all the things we've been numbing for so long. There's work to be done, habits to unlearn, and beliefs that need to be examined, BUT that work is where the reward lies. 

How would you feel knowing that you're finally working on what's been holding you back for years and for some decades? I'll tell you how you'll feel. F*cking AMAZING. No more blame. No more, it's not fair. No more dredging up past mistakes. Just ownership and responsibility for your own healing so that you don't pass this cycle onto your kids. 

I see and hear it every day from the challenge participants or my 1:1 clients. They are finally OVER the drinking cycle. And they are OVER mommy wine culture sucking them in any longer. Once we know better, we do better, and that's what many in the sobriety community are doing—sharing so that the next person doesn't use the mommy wine culture as justification to keep drinking.

I'm so honored to be surrounded by such inspiring and courageous mothers EVERY SINGLE DAY. WE ARE dismantling mommy wine culture, one sober mom at a time. 

Need a little extra support to jumpstart or keep the momentum going on your alcohol-free journey, then book a single 1:1 session with me (@sobermomcoach). Discount is disappearing TONIGHT at 9 pm EST! Click here to find a time that works for YOU!

To the mother who.... By Alyson Premo.

To the mother who is questioning her relationship with alcohol.

To the mother who is remaining sober in the middle of all the chaos.

To the mother who slipped but still chooses to keep trying.

I see you, and I'm SO proud of you.

Trust me. I see every single one of you. You are an example and inspiration to us all, but most importantly to your kids. Motherhood and sobriety is a whole other level, but here you are, breaking generational patterns and not giving up.

That is brave.

That is courageous.

That is hard work. 

That is love. 

I AM SO PROUD OF YOU!

For the next 48 HOURS ONLY, I'm discounting a single 1:1 session with me, Alyson Premo, aka @sobermomcoach. Times have been hard for us mamas lately, and mental health professionals are seeing a surge in clients, and new clients are being put on a waitlist for months out. 

I want to advise you that I'm NOT a mental health professional (i.e., therapist), but coaching is a great compliment to therapy. And for those who are having a hard time finding a therapist, this could be a great way to talk with someone until you can get in. 

In coaching, we focus less on the past and more on the present and what we can do TODAY to help move you forward. Tools. Strategies. And most importantly, talking through the issues that prevent you from living a life you don't want to escape from. Most of the time, we don't even realize something is an issue until it's brought to the forefront by talking through it. These are where the aha moments and real breakthroughs happen that facilitate change. 

So if you're interested in trying on coaching, having a chat with someone who's been where you are, or you are waiting until you can see a therapist but need some support now, I'd suggest clicking here and booking a call with me! 

If you have any issues finding a time that fits with your schedule, please message me (@sobermomcoach), and I'll see what I can do!

I can't fix or change you, but what I can do is be a guide to help you realize you have the power within you to let go of what isn't serving you anymore. I'm looking forward to connecting with you!

It wasn't the alcohol I craved. It was the relief. By Alyson Premo.

It wasn't the alcohol I craved. It was the relief.

The relief from overthinking.

The relief from sadness.

The relief from grief.

The relief from being awkward in social situations.

The relief from wondering what other people thought of me.

The relief from motherhood.

The relief from my past.

The relief from a broken heart.

The relief from pretending to have it all together.

It was never about the alcohol. It was about escaping reality.

When that first sip of alcohol hit my lips, it was like I could finally relax. I could finally not have to think about a damn thing. All my worries just melted away. Except when I woke up hungover wondering how much I even drank the night before, all the worries were still there. They didn't magically go away. They stayed there and, over time, became worse and worse. I let myself get deeper and deeper into a hole that became harder and harder to get out of no matter how hard I tried to get out.

At the end of my "drinking career", not even alcohol gave me that escape I was looking for. I was in pure hell. I was drinking to survive. And that is why I share my story and created Sober Mom Tribe because I don't ever want you to experience the hell that I did. If I can stop one mother from getting there, then my struggle was worth it.

So far, I've helped hundreds in 1:1 Coaching and the Alcohol-Free Challenges. And I would even say thousands in general who have messaged me about how this page or the @soberasamotherpodcast has helped them. So this page isn't just about what I offer in the coaching world, but I believe in these programs so much, and that is why I share them. I wish I had something like this BEFORE I became dependent.

With that said, TODAY is the LAST DAY to register for the 60 Day Alcohol-Free Challenge. This challenge isn't for those who are looking for a quick fix because there is none! This challenge is for those who are COMMITTED to getting uncomfortable, digging deeper to find out why alcohol has a grip on you and finding healthy ways to cope with the stressors of motherhood WITHOUT wine.

DOORS CLOSE TONIGHT AT 11:59 PM EST! Click here or message me (@sobermomcoach) directly to get immediate access to the content and group!

Sober Beliefs. By Alyson Premo

We have these preconceived notions of what a person is like who doesn't drink. These beliefs are largely based on what society has labeled a sober person. You know the usual - they're boring, something is wrong with them, they must have lost everything, why can't they just drink like a normal person, and the list could go on and on.

But those thoughts are beliefs, not facts. While SOME may lose everything. While SOME may be labeled as developing alcohol use disorder. Many will fall more in the gray area drinker category. Their life isn't falling to shambles, but they don't feel good. They're ashamed of their actions under the influence. They realize they're wasting precious time with their kids that they can't get back. And they recognize that maybe drinking isn't it's all cracked up to be.

The way we've been conditioned to believe that anyone who doesn't drink has a problem is absolute nonsense. If someone doesn't want to drink, let's stop making it mean something. It may mean a different number of things, but it's no one's business why.

Although, we are changing the narrative through this sober curious movement and showing others that a sober life isn't a boring life. It's the complete opposite. It's becoming more cool and mainstream NOT to drink. Don't get me wrong, we have a long way to go, but we've already come pretty far just in the past few years alone. Imagine what it'll be like 5 or 10 years from now? We can say we were the trendsetters. 😂

This is all to say, don't believe those thoughts you have in your head that sobriety is the end of your life. It's just the beginning. But to see that, you have to give it a chance.

Are you ready to give it a chance? The 60 Day Alcohol-Free Challenge only has a few more days of registration, and then we START. Start developing tiny actions that will lead to big wins. Start uncovering your triggers and why you drink in the first. Start connecting with other mothers who are at a similar point in their journey. And start committing to yourself and why you want to be alcohol-free in the first place. Let's do this TOGETHER!

Click here, or message me directly to register!

Dear wine memes. By Alyson Premo.

Dear wine memes,

I don't need alcohol to survive motherhood.

I need coffee. A nap. Support. A hug.

And reassurance that there is no such thing as a perfect mom.

Literally anything else BUT an anxiety-inducing substance.

It's funny until it isn't anymore. I used to laugh at these memes too. I used to think it's just a joke. There's no harm in laughing. The thing is, these memes are harmful because they perpetuate the narrative that mommy needs alcohol to get through motherhood.

For that struggling mom who has been drinking more than normal due to the stress of motherhood, she uses those memes and her friends/society as justification that there's nothing wrong with her drinking behavior. The thought of, "If everyone else is doing it, then I must be fine."

Yes, alcohol gives you the quick fix you're looking for, but that's all it is. Temporary relief until that buzz goes away. Then your back to being in the same situation you were in or sometimes worse.

Nothing ever gets better from drinking. Nothing. Our problems are still there. The overwhelm is still there. The kids are still there. And who knows, you may have added MORE issues to the mix by saying or doing things that you regret. And the anxiety the next day can be so crippling that you reach for the bottle again to get relief from that. And that mamas is how you start the cycle of addiction.

I was there. Using alcohol as my relief from the overwhelm, stress, and racing thoughts. It gave me comfort until it didn't anymore. I wish someone told me that alcohol wasn't the solution. The solution wasn't at the bottle of the bottle.

The solution was to use healthy coping mechanisms like calling a friend, going to therapy, having a cup of hot tea, taking a nap, hiring a sitter to watch my son while I could do something just for me, and reassurance that this mom thing is hard. No matter what you see. No mom has it all together all the time. I literally needed anything else but an anxiety-inducing substance that made me feel even worse about myself as a person and a mother.

So if you're reading this, you too deserve a life without alcohol. You deserve support and mothers who are behind you whether you drink or not. This is why I (@sobermomcoach) created the 60 Day Alcohol-Free Challenge so that 39 other mothers and I can support you every step of the way. Registration closes in a few days, so join us before it's too late!

Click here to register!

Don't let one slip-up derail your alcohol-free journey. By Alyson Premo.

I went to start my car this morning, and it wouldn't start. As I'm typing this, I'm waiting for AAA to come and put in a new battery. It's totally messed up my morning routine. I haven't had a sip of coffee yet, BUT I'm still here writing content and not letting it continue to damper the rest of my day.

Why am I telling you this? Because we have all these grand plans of how our days will go or how our alcohol-free journey will pan out. How many times do wrenches get thrown in there? So many. If 2020 taught us anything, it's that we can't plan for the uncontrollable. But what we can do is control how we respond to these situations.

We can be in a bad mood the rest of the day and decide not to show up for life because of one minor inconvenience.

We can choose to drink, beat ourselves up for it, and say I can't do this, so I might as well continue drinking.

OR

We can accept that car batteries need to be replaced every couple of years, take a deep breath, and keep it moving without a dark cloud hanging over the rest of the day.

We can choose to drink, learn the lesson, and get back up the next day.

Perspective is key.

👉🏻Do you keep trying all the different things (quit lit, podcasts, etc.) but still can't get this alcohol-free life to stick?

👉🏻Do you feel that you'll never be able to get your drinking under control?

Then the 90 Day 1:1 Coaching Program might be what you need to get sobriety to stick once and for all. I only open this program once every quarter, and NOW is the time. There's only ONE spot available (maybe two?) I haven't decided yet. But in any case, this is an opportunity that doesn't come around often, so if you're ready to transform your drinking habits and mindset not only around alcohol but the beliefs that are holding you back from other areas of your life, then this is for YOU!

Coaching is a commitment not only time-wise but financially, so to make sure you're a good fit, I've created an application for you. Once submitted, I will contact you within 24 hours to book a time to chat.

Click here to apply or message me directly (@sobermomcoach)!

What if we're the "normal" ones for not drinking?

Have you ever thought the people who don't drink are the normal ones for not wanting to ingest a poison that kills your mind, body, and soul?

I hear this a lot from 1:1 clients and mothers in the challenges and here on social media. That they just want to be "normal". What does that even mean? Honestly, what does normal mean? Normal to me means following the crowd, doing things that don't fulfill your purpose because you're scared of what others will think, having a 9-5, and getting stuck in the monotony of life.

F*ck normal!! I don't want to be normal. I want to be ME.

I want to do what lights me up no matter what other people think.

I want to live with my life with no regrets.

I want to live my life unapologetic for who I am.

I want to be on my death bed satisfied and proud of how I lived this one life we have on Earth.

I know now that alcohol wasn't helping me fulfill what I'm here to do. It was slowly killing me.

It was killing my dreams.

It was killing my relationships.

It was killing who I truly am.

I used alcohol to hide and suppress so that I could be perceived as "normal". But have you ever thought the ones who don't drink alcohol are the normal ones for wanting to live their lives fully?

For not wanting to spend their days hungover and crippled with anxiety. For not wanting to waste this one precious life.

For not wanting to miss moments with their kids.

For not caring what others think of them.

I don't want to be normal. I want to be healthy, fulfilled, and present. I don't want to numb out like everyone else in society is conditioned to do. I've lived that life, and that is not normal. At all.

Come join 39 other mothers and me as we ditch "normal" for what makes us feel fulfilled. Let's leave mommy wine culture and the guilt, regret, shame, and hangovers behind TOGETHER!

Click here for more information or message me (@sobermomcoach) directly to grab your spot. Early bird pricing ends TONIGHT at 11:59 pm EST!