You don't have to drink this weekend. By Alyson Premo

I don't know who needs to hear this, but just because it's another heavily marketed drinking holiday doesn't mean you have to drink.

Let's be honest we can use any day to justify our drinking. But I bet many of us used holidays to cover up how much we were really drinking. On holidays it's acceptable to get drunk, act like a hot mess, and stroll into work on Tuesday, barely able to function.

Or is it? When did it become acceptable to get so intoxicated that it's funny?

IT IS NOT FUNNY.

❌ When college students are dying from hazing incidents involving alcohol, it is not funny.

❌ When more young women than ever before are being diagnosed with liver disease, it is not funny.

❌ When children are being taken away from their mothers, it is not funny.

Don't fall for the illusion that just because it's a holiday, you can do whatever you want and fly under the radar with your drinking.

You're an adult, so you can do whatever you want, but little eyes are watching you. And teenagers are looking at you to be the role model they deserve.

U.S. mamas, what are you most looking forward to about not drinking this holiday weekend? Let us know in the comments. 👇🏻

Are you already going back and forth in your head trying to justify" just one drink" this weekend at a BBQ or by the pool?

Nervous about how you're going to get through Summer without alcohol?

Do you wish you could drink like "normal people"?

Do you logically know the harmful effects of alcohol and deep down don't want to drink but keep going back to it?

You're in luck because I brought back the Confidently Be Booze Free - 60 Day Challenge for THIS SUMMER ONLY.

Let's get you to a place where...

🎉 alcohol isn't on your mind.

🎉 being a nondrinker becomes who you are.

🎉 you are confident in saying, "no, I don't drink."

You, me, 39 other mothers, and a Summer full of LIVING instead of barely surviving with hangxiety, regret, a puffy and red face, cottonmouth, and lost memories.

Click here to join!

For those who join TODAY, 5/27, you're receiving a booze free babe tumbler and tank. That's a $80 value for FREE! It's my gift to you for showing up for yourself and your family this Summer.

Signs you and alcohol need to take a break. By Alyson Premo.

💥 You wake up feeling guilty.

💥 You only intend to have "one" glass of wine but finish the bottle.

💥 You tell yourself you're going to take a break from drinking for 30 days, but then 5 days in, you go back to drinking.

💥 You don't remember putting the kids to bed.

💥 Your day revolves around when you'll be able to have your next drink.

💥 You are self-medicating.

The bottom line is if you're on this page or you are questioning your relationship with alcohol, then you know something is off. 

Trust that gentle nudge inside of yourself. 

✨ You know, deep down, something needs to change. 

✨ You know that living in this alcohol-induced haze is preventing you from experiencing the joys of this one life we have.

✨ You know that you are capable and deserving of so much more than reaching for a glass of wine when times get tough. 

✨ You know that your kids deserve a mother who says alcohol is harmful but actually shows them that by not drinking it herself. 

Don't keep putting your mental and physical health on the back burner. We only get one mind and body, so treat it with the respect it deserves instead of polluting it with a cancer-causing substance. 

Did you just...

say, "oh sh*t, that's me," or

feel a punch to the gut, or

automatically go into defensive mode that she doesn't know what she's talking about. I'm just fine.

That's YOUR SIGN. to join me and 39 other mothers for Confidently Be Booze Free - 60 Day Challenge: Summer Edition!

60 days of content

60 days of audio lessons

60 days of journal prompts

60 days of support

60 days of accountability

4 LIVE group coaching calls

...and all the extra bonuses

There are only 40 spots available to facilitate a deeper connection to others in the group. Connection is a big piece of the puzzle, and a group this size allows you to share and open up to mothers who are at a similar point on their journey. 

If you want to drop the guilt and the shame, you have to stop hiding and keeping things a secret.

YOU WILL NOT ditch alcohol by continuing to suppress, using all the justifications in the world that "you aren't that bad", and doing it alone.

Click here to grab your spot!

P.S. This is a ONCE A YEAR challenge, so when the doors are closed, they'll be closed for another year.

You don't need a rock bottom to quit drinking, but you do need a wake-up call. By Alyson Premo.

You don't need a rock bottom to quit drinking, but you do need a wake-up call.

You don't have to hit rock bottom to change your relationship with alcohol. That's an old belief that people need to lose everything before they finally quit for good and realize that they have a problem.

That notion will have you stuck in this cycle longer than need be and, in the long run, worse off. We all have different journeys and wake-up calls.

My wake-up call was the day I walked into detox, but for 3 years, I let myself get to that point. Going back and forth with a few weeks or a month of sobriety and then back to drinking. And the cycle repeated, and each time it led me down a darker path quicker than it did the previous time.

My wake-up call was detox, and I'd recommend stopping before using that as yours. 😉

These are still wake-up calls too.

🚩 Not remembering how you got to bed the night before.

🚩 Driving under the influence.

🚩 Sending text messages that you regret the next day.

🚩 Being controlled by your 5 pm on the dot glass of wine.

🚩 Having your kids tell you your favorite drink is wine.

🚩 Feeling physically ill from being hungover.

🚩 Crippling anxiety the day after drinking.

🚩 A gentle nudge that something just isn't right with your drinking.

If you're questioning your relationship with alcohol, then that's all you need to want to change. Don't let yourself get to a place that's harder to dig out of if you don't have to.

I understand that many of us will justify that we're not that bad because we're not drinking morning until night, but I hope you know that my drinking morning to night didn't happen overnight either. It happened over years. Years that I kept ignoring the signs. Ignoring how I felt—ignoring everything but the one thing that gave me comfort until I physically needed it to survive.

Whatever your wake-up call is, you're going to need tools and support to help you stay consistent and confident on this journey. One way to do that is by 1:1 Coaching. I only have ONE spot open for March, so if this post hit you in the feels. Message me (@alysonpremo) or click here to apply for the 90 Day 1:1 Program.

There is no better feeling than waking up the day after the Super Bowl without a hangover. By Alyson Premo.

There is no better feeling than waking up the day after the Super Bowl without a hangover.

I'll wait.

Who else feels refreshed at the start of this week rather than a hot mess dumpster fire with cotton mouth, crippling anxiety, and regretting things you said or did? 🙋🏼‍♀️

All my 1:1 clients had a successful Super Bowl in that they enjoyed it without drinking.

💥 One was AT the Super Bowl and didn't even flinch.

💥 One threw a Super Bowl party, and while she was nervous, especially at being a week into this journey, SHE DID IT!

💥 Another was hosting a small gathering with her family and enjoyed all the snacks and spending time with family.

I even received a few DM's yesterday from moms who said that it was MORE FUN sober.

What prevents most from trying this alcohol free lifestyle is they're scared they'll be boring, or they won't have fun anymore.

THAT'S NOT THE CASE AT ALL.

🚩 Is your definition of fun feeling like garbage the day after?

🚩 Is your definition of fun wondering what you said or did the night before?

🚩 Is your definition of fun checking out and missing out on memories with your kids?

🚩 Is your definition of fun beating yourself up once again because you drank when you told yourself enough was enough?

I SURE HOPE NOT.

Time to start taking a look at what fun is and what you consider boring.

Because boring to me is going through life doing the same thing day after day even though you know how much potential is waiting for you on the other side of putting down the bottle.

This belief is just one of many that we take a deep dive into in my 1:1 Coaching Programs. 1:1 Coaching isn't for everyone, and that's ok. There are many great free programs and lower cost memberships out there for you to take part in or try out. That's why I love where we're at in 2022 when it comes to sobriety - there are so many OPTIONS.

❌ If you've tried the free programs and have support but still aren't where you want to be, then consider applying for the 90 Day 1:1 Coaching Program - From Detox To Dedication, where I guide you to a fun and fulfilling life without alcohol.

Click here to apply.

We only have one life. How are you spending it? By Alyson Premo.

Who wants to spend their one life here on Earth thinking about drinking, drinking, or regretting you drank just because you don't want to deal with life?

Not me.

How can you appreciate the one life you have if you're constantly trying to escape it with alcohol?

What it comes down to is we only have one life.

Are you going to spend it constantly running, escaping, and numbing out? Or are you going to appreciate that negative experiences are just part of life because we can't appreciate the good without the bad?

⚡️ We don't know what joy is until we've experienced pain.

⚡️ We don't know happiness until we've experienced sadness.

Don't spend your time here thinking about drinking, drinking, or regretting you drank just because you don't want to deal with life.

Your one life is precious, and so is the time with your kids.

🌟 Imagine how much time and mental energy you are wasting.

🌟 Imagine what you could be doing with that time.

🌟 Imagine the moments you're missing out on because you're more concerned about escaping rather than dealing with it head-on and then moving on.

Don't waste any more time on a substance that doesn't add value to your life. You deserve so much more than the regret, mom guilt, and anxiety that's waiting for you at the bottom of the bottle.

Need a space to face your problems head-on and a guide to excavate the REAL issues underneath?

I have ONE spot open for the 90 Day 1:1 Coaching Program - From Detox To Dedication, where I take you from alcohol being the center of your life to nonexistent.

I know I'm biased, but the tiny shifts my clients are seeing are life-changing. Are you next?

Since this program is an investment and I only work with TRULY COMMITTED women, apply by clicking here.

I hope that if you've been trying and trying to get this alcohol-free life to stick and haven't yet that you'll consider reaching out. Coaching can be the difference to you finally being free from the grips of alcohol.

Gaining confidence on this alcohol free journey. By Alyson Premo.

Confidence on this alcohol free journey doesn't come from thinking about not drinking. It comes from actually not drinking.

You won't gain confidence on this alcohol-free journey unless you take action. You won't see that YOU CAN do this if you're constantly thinking about not drinking, but you keep drinking anyway.

It just doesn't work like that.

Most of the time, our thoughts are holding us back from even starting in the first place. We're stuck in those negative thought patterns saying things like, "I can't do this", "I'm a failure", "There's something wrong with me'. Instead, we need to be using affirmations like....

👉🏻 I am capable of removing alcohol from my life.

👉🏻 I am worthy of not drinking a toxin.

👉🏻 I deserve to be the healthiest version of myself.

👉🏻 I may slip up on this journey, but that means I'm trying.

See what a difference a couple of words can make?

We are so damn hard on ourselves, and we need to be more kind to ourselves. We should be building ourselves up more than anybody else.

If you can't be your own hype person right now, I get it. It's hard to switch your negative thought patterns overnight, and that's why I believe so strongly in community and support from others who are in the midst of the messy beginning, just like you.

This is why I created the 90 Day 1:1 Coaching Program - From Detox To Dedication. When those negative gremlins come creeping in trying to derail you, then that's where I come in as a coach to be your advocate and guide you through those moments so that if or when you have them again, you become stronger and can guide yourself through them.

It's important to have a safe space to bring all your fears, insecurities, and questions so that you can successfully get to the other side of this drinking journey, and that's what I provide.

I see it repeatedly, mothers saying they can do it on their own, and then a year later their back in my world with time wasted and an increase in my pricing.

YOU CAN NOT DO THIS ON YOUR OWN, AND YOU DON'T HAVE TO.

I have ONE spot open for the 90 Day 1:1 Program.

Apply by clicking here!

Dear wine memes. By Alyson Premo.

Dear wine memes,

I don't need alcohol to survive motherhood.

I need tea.. A nap. Support. A hug.

And reassurance that there is no such thing as a perfect mom.

Literally anything else BUT an anxiety-inducing substance.

It's funny until it isn't anymore. I used to think it's just a joke. There's no harm in laughing. The thing is, these memes are harmful because they perpetuate the narrative that mommy needs alcohol to survive motherhood.

For that struggling mom who has been drinking more due to the stress of motherhood, she uses those memes and her friends/society as justification that there's nothing wrong with her drinking behavior. The thought of, "If everyone else is doing it, then I must be fine."

Yes, alcohol gives you the quick fix you're looking for, but that's all it is. Temporary relief until that buzz goes away. Then you're back to being in the same situation you were in or sometimes worse.

Nothing ever gets better from drinking.

NOTHING.

Our problems are still there.

The overwhelm is still there.

The kids are still there.

And who knows, you may have added MORE issues to the mix by saying or doing things that you regret. And the anxiety the next day can be so crippling that you reach for the bottle again to get relief from that. And that mamas is how you start the cycle of addiction.

I was there. Using alcohol as my relief from the overwhelm, stress, and racing thoughts. It gave me comfort until it didn't anymore. I wish someone had told me that alcohol wasn't the solution. The solution wasn't at the bottom of the bottle.

The solution was to use healthy coping mechanisms like calling a friend, going to therapy, having a cup of hot tea, taking a nap, hiring a sitter, and reassurance that this mom thing is hard. No matter what you see. No mom has it all together all the time.

I literally needed anything else but an anxiety-inducing substance that made me feel even worse about myself as a person and a mother.

So if you're reading this, you too deserve a life without alcohol. You deserve support and mothers who are behind you whether you drink or not. This is why I (@alysonpremo) created Sober Mom Tribe and why I offer the programs I do.

I have ONE spot left for the 90 Day 1:1 Program for the foreseeable future. So if you've wanted to work with me to help you get out of this cycle, then NOW is the time.

Click here to apply.

Birthdays used to be another excuse that I HAD TO drink. By Alyson Premo.

Birthdays used to be another excuse that I HAD TO drink, and now they're a day I celebrate my life without a substance that would have cut my life short.

Birthdays have a different meaning when 5 years ago, you didn't even know if you'd make it to your next one.

But I remember that first sober birthday wondering how the heck I would celebrate without alcohol?

Would it even be fun?

Telling myself, what's the point of turning another year older without a substance that I thought gave me life?

Alcohol NEVER gave me life.

Looking back, I can't believe I ever thought these things because, at over 5 years sober, I know this simply isn't true.

How do I know it isn't true?

EXPERIENCE.

I've experienced all the "firsts" without alcohol.

I've experienced having wicked anxiety and my mind not going to alcohol to "cure" it.

I've experienced hard fucking days without alcohol.

I've experienced endless possibility and opportunity.

And that's all because I gave up alcohol.

I wouldn't be a leader of a sober mom community.

I wouldn't be coaching women to a fulfilling life without alcohol and now adding the Sober Mom Coaching Academy™ to the list.

I wouldn't be a mom doing the work to heal her own trauma so that she doesn't pass it on to her son. That right there is reason enough alone to ditch alcohol.

Our kids don't deserve to take on our pain.

So how am I celebrating my 38th birthday today? Getting a few work tasks done, a potential 1:1 client call, and out to lunch with my son.

A lunch that used to be filled with booze, and then I'd come back home and drink even more. I'd wake up the next day not remembering half of my birthday with a raging hangover.

Grateful doesn't even cut it for how I feel to be turning another year older without alcohol in my life.

This is possible for you too, but it won't happen overnight.

Stop quitting on yourself before it does!

Are you done quitting on yourself when it comes to this alcohol free journey?

I have ONE spot open for the 90 Day 1:1 Program where I guide you to a life where alcohol takes a back seat once and for all.

Apply by clicking here.

Looking to become a Certified Sober Mom Coach to guide other mothers to a place of alcohol freedom? Get on the waitlist by clicking here.

Sobriety isn't a race to see who can improve their life the quickest. By Alyson Premo,

I see this all too often, and I'm guilty of this myself. When we're in the beginning stages of our sobriety, we may compare our lives to those who are farther down the road in their journey. The thoughts of...

👉🏻I'm gaining weight, but all I see are women who have lost weight from being sober.

👉🏻She looks so happy, and I'm miserable.

👉🏻She started her own business, and I can barely attend to the basics of handling the kids and myself.

👉🏻Her skin is glowing, and my face is breaking out like I'm a teenager again.

👉🏻She's sharing her journey with the world, and I haven't even told my friends I had a problem with my drinking.

I'm sure many of you have said a few of these or others when it comes to comparing your day 1 with someone's year 2 or your year 3 with someone else's. But to be frank, you have to stop that sh*t! We all have different circumstances and levels of how dependent we were on alcohol.

The only thing that matters is YOUR journey.

The progress that you're making from one day to the next.

NOT comparing your progress to someone else's. We don't know their behind the scenes or story just like they don't know yours, so as they would say in school, keep your eyes on your own paper.

Keep striving towards the goals YOU want from becoming sober.

Having a hard time getting sucked into the comparison trap? 👇🏻

This is one of many topics we work on together in my (@alysonpremo) 90 Day 1:1 Program - From Detox To Dedication, where I guide you to a life where alcohol isn't even on your radar anymore.

I can guarantee that if you put in the work, the transformation you will see in yourself at the end of 90 days will be life-changing, but only you can find that out for yourself.

Click here to apply, and then I'll be in touch to schedule a brief chat!

P.S. Only ONE spot is open for the foreseeable future!

All you have to do is not drink today; that's it. By Alyson Premo.

Seems simple, right? It is pretty simple when you think about it, BUT it is not easy.

We tend to overcomplicate things and think about future holidays or social situations or the daunting "forever" word when all it is is focusing on not drinking TODAY.

That's it.

That's all of us are guaranteed in life anyway. So why focus on the what-ifs when we're not even there yet?

So let this serve as your reminder today to focus on the 24 hours you have ahead of you.

🔸Not this weekend.

🔸Not Valentine's Day next month.

🔸Not the Summer.

🔸Not any day except today.

With that said, quitting drinking isn't easy because it's more than not just picking up a drink

👉🏻It is unlearning a coping mechanism you've relied on for years or even decades.

👉🏻It is rewiring your brain.

👉🏻It is becoming conscious of why you turn to alcohol.

👉🏻It is becoming aware of your triggers.

👉🏻It is dealing with trauma or experiences from the past.

👉🏻It is being patient.

The real work begins when you stop drinking and realize that you drank to numb out from everyday life and what you will do without your crutch now.

You drank because...

🔸your spouse annoys you.

🔸your kids won't give you 5 minutes of uninterrupted time to let you just be.

🔸everyone around you is.

🔸you're sabotaging yourself.

This list could go on and on, but these are pretty common reasons. I hear it ALL THE TIME.

Yes, those reasons are valid, but grabbing that glass of wine is the easy way out. You're letting yourself get sucked in and stuck in that same cycle. You're not even giving yourself a chance to choose a different outcome.

The way to give yourself a chance is by choosing differently and becoming AWARE. Awareness is the first step to change. To change our patterns and behaviors., we have to become conscious of them first.

We talk about how to do this and so much more in the 90 Day 1:1 Program - From Detox To Dedication, where I (@alysonpremo) use my Sober Mom Method to take you from barely surviving to thriving without alcohol.

I have ONE spot open for the 90 Day Program, so if this post resonates with you and you're struggling, apply by clicking here.