The 20 question "Am I An Alcoholic?" survey is a waste of time. By Alyson Premo.

The 20 question "Am I An Alcoholic?" survey is a waste of time. If you're questioning your drinking to where you want to take a survey, then it's already enough of a problem to stop.

How many of you have googled, "am I an alcoholic" after another drinking disaster?

I hear it all the time.

And what I want you to know is that if you're questioning your relationship to alcohol to where you have to take a survey, then that's the only validation you need to know that alcohol is negatively impacting your life. Also, you don't have to label yourself as an alcoholic to stop drinking.

People who don't have a drinking problem aren't googling if they have a drinking problem, right?

If you're going to take a survey, then obviously, there have been MANY incidents where you feel that alcohol has negatively impacted your life or you have had consequences as a result of drinking too much. As a culture, we see binge drinking or the mishaps of our drinking as funny sometimes, but it's not funny at all.

❌ Drinking so much that you're blacking out and not remembering how you put the kids to bed is not funny.

❌ Drinking so much that you wake up hungover is not funny.

❌ Drinking so much that you're in a constant haze is not funny.

It's not funny. It's sad that, as a culture, we've made a mockery and accepted drunk nights as a passage to adulthood and part of everyday life. It is not normal to be drinking that much alcohol. You are destroying your mind, body, and soul when you consume that much. There is no benefit.

Trust that gentle nudge that tells you that your drinking has gotten out of control and that the negative consequences you're seeing are all the reason you need to remove alcohol from your life. You don't have to put a label on it. You don't have to be an alcoholic to stop drinking.

All you need is a desire to want something more of your life than hangovers, regret, anxiety, disappointment, and an inner knowing that this isn't the way life is supposed to be. Trust that nudge that something isn't right.

I (@alysonpremo) have ONE spot left for my 90 Day 1:1 Coaching Program for March. This program is for you if you're committed, ready, and willing to do the work. There are no quick fixes, so if that sounds like something you'd be interested in, apply by clicking here.

You won't find happiness, patience, or fulfillment at the bottom of the bottle. By Alyson Premo.

You won't find happiness, patience, or fulfillment at the bottom of the bottle. But you will find sadness, anger, wasted time, regret, and guilt.

Those fleeting moments of euphoria aren't worth what's left at the bottom of the bottle.

I know you know this logically, but in the moment, your brain wants comfort. It wants to go to what you've always done to relieve your anxiety or stress. This is why it's important to pause before reacting. Pause before grabbing for that bottle of wine or that bottle of beer out of the fridge.

We can't change our behaviors until we become AWARE of our thoughts and actions. This is why the pause is important. It gives us a second to think about our choices.

The next time you automatically drive into the liquor store parking lot on your way home from work, or you grab for your glass of wine while cooking dinner, take a step back, and reflect on what's really going on. Why are you really grabbing for alcohol? Habit? Stress?

Whatever the case is, knowing that will help you to change the pattern for the future FOR GOOD.

Let's change your relationship with alcohol for good TOGETHER!

🖐🏻 Apply for the 90 Day 1:1 Coaching Program, where we dissect the beliefs and stories you've been telling yourself about why you can't let go of alcohol, discover who you really are without alcohol, and dedicate yourself to being the best mom and woman possible.

Click here to fill out a few questions, and then I'll be in touch to schedule a brief chat. -> -> -> @sobermomtribe

🎯 No wishy-washers need apply. This is ONLY for those who are ready to put in the work to a better life without alcohol.

Dear wine memes. By Alyson Premo.

Dear wine memes,

I don't need alcohol to survive motherhood.

I need tea.. A nap. Support. A hug.

And reassurance that there is no such thing as a perfect mom.

Literally anything else BUT an anxiety-inducing substance.

It's funny until it isn't anymore. I used to think it's just a joke. There's no harm in laughing. The thing is, these memes are harmful because they perpetuate the narrative that mommy needs alcohol to survive motherhood.

For that struggling mom who has been drinking more due to the stress of motherhood, she uses those memes and her friends/society as justification that there's nothing wrong with her drinking behavior. The thought of, "If everyone else is doing it, then I must be fine."

Yes, alcohol gives you the quick fix you're looking for, but that's all it is. Temporary relief until that buzz goes away. Then you're back to being in the same situation you were in or sometimes worse.

Nothing ever gets better from drinking.

NOTHING.

Our problems are still there.

The overwhelm is still there.

The kids are still there.

And who knows, you may have added MORE issues to the mix by saying or doing things that you regret. And the anxiety the next day can be so crippling that you reach for the bottle again to get relief from that. And that mamas is how you start the cycle of addiction.

I was there. Using alcohol as my relief from the overwhelm, stress, and racing thoughts. It gave me comfort until it didn't anymore. I wish someone had told me that alcohol wasn't the solution. The solution wasn't at the bottom of the bottle.

The solution was to use healthy coping mechanisms like calling a friend, going to therapy, having a cup of hot tea, taking a nap, hiring a sitter, and reassurance that this mom thing is hard. No matter what you see. No mom has it all together all the time.

I literally needed anything else but an anxiety-inducing substance that made me feel even worse about myself as a person and a mother.

So if you're reading this, you too deserve a life without alcohol. You deserve support and mothers who are behind you whether you drink or not. This is why I (@alysonpremo) created Sober Mom Tribe and why I offer the programs I do.

I have ONE spot left for the 90 Day 1:1 Program for the foreseeable future. So if you've wanted to work with me to help you get out of this cycle, then NOW is the time.

Click here to apply.

All you have to do is not drink today; that's it. By Alyson Premo.

Seems simple, right? It is pretty simple when you think about it, BUT it is not easy.

We tend to overcomplicate things and think about future holidays or social situations or the daunting "forever" word when all it is is focusing on not drinking TODAY.

That's it.

That's all of us are guaranteed in life anyway. So why focus on the what-ifs when we're not even there yet?

So let this serve as your reminder today to focus on the 24 hours you have ahead of you.

🔸Not this weekend.

🔸Not Valentine's Day next month.

🔸Not the Summer.

🔸Not any day except today.

With that said, quitting drinking isn't easy because it's more than not just picking up a drink

👉🏻It is unlearning a coping mechanism you've relied on for years or even decades.

👉🏻It is rewiring your brain.

👉🏻It is becoming conscious of why you turn to alcohol.

👉🏻It is becoming aware of your triggers.

👉🏻It is dealing with trauma or experiences from the past.

👉🏻It is being patient.

The real work begins when you stop drinking and realize that you drank to numb out from everyday life and what you will do without your crutch now.

You drank because...

🔸your spouse annoys you.

🔸your kids won't give you 5 minutes of uninterrupted time to let you just be.

🔸everyone around you is.

🔸you're sabotaging yourself.

This list could go on and on, but these are pretty common reasons. I hear it ALL THE TIME.

Yes, those reasons are valid, but grabbing that glass of wine is the easy way out. You're letting yourself get sucked in and stuck in that same cycle. You're not even giving yourself a chance to choose a different outcome.

The way to give yourself a chance is by choosing differently and becoming AWARE. Awareness is the first step to change. To change our patterns and behaviors., we have to become conscious of them first.

We talk about how to do this and so much more in the 90 Day 1:1 Program - From Detox To Dedication, where I (@alysonpremo) use my Sober Mom Method to take you from barely surviving to thriving without alcohol.

I have ONE spot open for the 90 Day Program, so if this post resonates with you and you're struggling, apply by clicking here.

Your children aren't your excuse to drink. They're your reason NOT to. By Alyson Premo

The mommy needs alcohol to parent narrative is utter nonsense and quite frankly ignorant and dangerous.

Yes, parenting is hard. Maybe one of the hardest things we'll ever do in our lives. But it is not an excuse to run to a toxic substance, check out, and potentially put our kids in harm's way.

I say this with the utmost compassion, and there is no shame EVER in this space. We already have enough of that from our drinking days, but it's the truth. Our kids are watching us, and they are absorbing their surroundings more than you think.

By the time they are 7 or 8 years old, they have a solid foundation of beliefs based on all the programming from people in their life. These beliefs get stored in their subconscious, so they react based on childhood experiences later in life.

It's clear from stories I hear from 1:1 clients and challenge participants that their mother or father's drinking impacted their own drinking behavior. It also affected how they view themselves. It's not impossible to change those deep-rooted thoughts, but it is hard work.

Our parents said or did things in our childhood that we would never realize impacted us, but now we're spending our adult life trying to rid ourselves of those beliefs. I wish schools stressed the importance of a developing child's brain and how we nurture them, speak to them, and raise them would impact them into adulthood.

Not only that, but we are teaching our kids to cope with life by running to alcohol. How sad is that? No matter what memes you see or what your friends and family say.

IT IS NOT NORMAL.

Let's teach our kids healthy ways to cope so that they have a better chance of not running to alcohol.

Whether you want to believe it or not, alcohol impacts the relationship you have with your kids. The longer you wait, the harder it is on you and them.

Ready to nip this drinking cycle in the bud before it gets worse? Because trust me. It always does.

I have TWO spots open for my (@alysonpremo) 90 Day 1:1 Program - From Detox To Dedication. This is for mothers who are COMMITTED to doing the work.

If that's you, then apply by clicking here, and I'll be in touch to schedule a chat!

Forgiveness. By Alyson Premo.

Say it with me.

"I forgive myself for using alcohol to cope with motherhood because, at the time, that was the only way I knew how."

As mothers, we are so hard on ourselves, from not having the cleanest house to feeling like a failure because our kids aren't behaving to feeling guilty using alcohol as our crutch in motherhood.

We drink most of the time because we let that guilt of not being "perfect" get to us, and all we want to do is numb out. Then we remove alcohol; we're left with all these feelings that we can't escape anymore.

One of the most common is feeling like a bad mom for drinking and all the things you did while under the influence.

👉🏻Feeling like a bad mom for not being present during our kid's youngest years.

👉🏻Feeling like a bad mom for missing out on specific events and significant milestones in our kids' lives.

The second time I tried to get sober, my son had to miss his kindergarten graduation. I felt horrible then and felt even more awful when I finally got sober once and for all a year later and had to relive that moment. I had to forgive myself for that moment because if I didn't, it would eat me alive, and I wouldn't be able to enjoy the sober life I have now with my son.

Those moments needed to happen to get to where I am today, and at the time, alcohol was the only way I knew how to cope with grief, overwhelm, and low self-worth. Now that I know better, I do better, and that's all I can do.

Beating myself up for things that happened in the past isn't going to help. In fact, for some people, it leads them to want to drink again, so forgive your past self for not knowing better and do better today.

These are the kinds of topics we dig deeper into in my (@alysonpremo) 90 Day 1:1 Program (From Detox To Dedication). This program is for those who do better in a 1:1 setting because they want a safe space to be seen and heard without flying under the radar. They want to be held accountable and get to the underlying issues of why they drink in the first place so that they can handle their triggers head-on and make a plan to overcome them.

Due to popular demand, I have opened up TWO more spots for January, so click here to apply or message me (@alysonpremo)!

Monday mornings without alcohol. By Alyson Premo.

Monday mornings in my drinking days consisted of hangxiety, self-loathing, and wondering how I would make it through another week feeling like garbage.

Now they consist of purpose, intentions, and wondering what good things will come my way this week.

I don't know how I stayed in the drinking cycle for as long as I did.

Seriously, I never felt good unless I was consuming a drink, and after that initial high, it didn't even feel good anymore, but I kept drinking it because no off switch, and why would you drink to only have 1 glass. In my mind, that's utter madness. 😂

To live this one life we have on Earth in this miserable cycle, for fucking what?

👉🏻 A 30-minute reprieve?

👉🏻 An "escape" from our lives that will still be there when we wake up in the morning?

And this is where it starts to get dangerous when you start drinking to escape and numb feelings; that's red flag territory. I know we've been conditioned to believe that it's "OK" to have a glass or 2 of wine at the end of the day to unwind and relieve the stresses of the day, but does that solve the stressors?

NOPE.

They're still there in the morning.

How about you dissect the actual stressor and come to a resolution? Instead of just putting a bandaid on it.

How about you find a healthy way to unwind? Instead of the false relaxation that alcohol provides.

So instead of drinking my weekend away now and feeling like a sack of sh*t on Monday with thoughts of "Why am I such an idiot? Why do I keep breaking promises to myself?"

Now I'm prepared for the week ahead, and you know what else?

I love having the freedom to be my own boss, create content and programs, and have a deep sense of purpose when I wake up on a Monday because I'm doing what I love and giving back to the world.

So many of us stay stuck in the drinking cycle because we're unhappy with our job and feel like we have to stay in it just to pay the bills. Yes, paying the bills is important, but if you don't love what you do, the chances of this alcohol-free gig sticking decrease.

Are you interested in being a sober coach so that you too can give back AND create an income? Message me (@alysonpremo), and let's chat!

The best gift you can give your kids. By Alyson Premo.

What's the best gift you can give to yourself and your kids this holiday season? A sober mom.

Today starts the frantic holiday shopping season. I used to do that too, hustling for the best deals, adding everything to my cart. More debt added to the pile. For what? An item that will get thrown out or not even used?

I'll be honest I can go a little overboard still for my son, but he deserves it, and I can, so I will

Anyway, I digress.

❌ Do you know the one thing that will impact your kids in a way that an iPhone, video game, or Lego set can't?

👉🏻 You being a healed mom who doesn't use alcohol as a crutch.

👉🏻 You doing the work so that your kids don't have to heal for decades to come.

Maybe this is a hard pill to swallow, but it's the truth.

📞 I've opened up my calendar today to get on the phone with those who are ready to let go of the one thing that's been affecting EVERY area of their life, aka ALCOHOL.

How can you get on the phone with me today? Apply for the 90 Day 1:1 Coaching Program by clicking here.

❌ This is ONLY for women who are ready to commit time-wise and financially to do the inner work so that you can get off the struggle bus once and for all.

If it's not the right time for you, that's ok, but I want you to know there will NEVER be a right time. There will always be a holiday, an event, a stressful day, kids, or whatever excuse you keep telling yourself to push it off.

I may have something special up my sleeve for those who get on a call with me today too. Hint: What's the one constant you're seeing everywhere today? Discounts!

I only have TWO spots for December and THREE spots for January. Get your plan in place NOW so that you don't give yourself another chance to talk yourself out of stepping outside your comfort zone.

🎁 Investing in yourself is not a one-time gift that you'll throw away but a lifelong gift to you, your family, and society. And right now, more than ever, we need you showing up as your healed self without alcohol.

Click here to give this gift to yourself TODAY!

You don't have to drink tonight. By Alyson Premo.

The booziest night of the year is upon us in the U.S., and I wanted to remind you just because you've always drank on Thanksgiving Eve doesn't mean you have to tonight.

How empowering will it be to choose differently tonight?

How proud of yourself are you going to be when you wake up tomorrow WITHOUT feeling like garbage?

No more hair of the dog needed on Thanksgiving just to make you feel "normal". Do you even understand how ridiculous that is?

"Let me intentionally poison myself, and then because I'm going through withdrawal, let me ingest more poison to feel okay." Like WTF!!!

How is this living?

IT'S NOT.

And you're fooling yourself if you think it is. I was trapped for too long because I thought it was normal to wake up hungover and start drinking early on holidays. After all, that's what everyone else did.

Who came up with this absurd rule?

And that's the thing all these "rules" or beliefs aren't even real. 🤯

Once your eyes get opened to how you've been duped, it's impossible not to unsee it, and that's how you start breaking out of this drinking pattern.

I don't know about you, but my choice to not drink is empowering AF.

I know it can be hard to see that initially, but stop looking at it as a punishment and start looking at it as a damn gift because it is.

It's the gift that keeps on giving to you, to your family, to society, and for generations to come.

Are you listening to all the podcasts?

Reading all the quit lit?

Following all of your favorite sober or sober curious accounts on social media?

And still finding yourself in the same spot?

Well, kudos to you because that's an amazing start to changing the pattern, BUT the real beginning to change lies in the inner work that most of you are avoiding, and that's WHY you're struggling. Stop making it harder on yourself than it needs to be and get the support from a certified professional (ahem) ME (@alysonpremo)!

Ready to do the work so that you can break up with booze for good? Apply for the 90 Day 1:1 Coaching Program by clicking here. -> -> -> @sobermomtribe

Why now? I only have TWO spots open for December, and the price is increasing on January 1, 2022.

The freedom you're looking for isn't at the bottom of the bottle. It's in the feelings you're avoiding.

Why do most of us get trapped in this cycle? Because we don't want to feel.

We don't want to feel sadness, anxiety, grief, and all the so-called "bad" emotions. But that's all part of being human, right?

At a young age, I learned that crying was considered a sign of weakness. Big girls don't cry. Big girls handle their problems with a smile on their face. Sigh. It's unfortunate, but that's the way parenting was done back in the day.

All that resisting, avoiding, and suppressing isn't doing any of us favors in the long run. I was never taught how to handle these tough emotions, so later in life, I turned to alcohol to make them go away. What I didn't know was they weren't going away; they were festering and eating me alive.

👉🏻 Even when removing the alcohol, we think that there's a way to get rid of the negative emotions or bad days, but there isn't.

"The only way out is through." It's cliche, but it's so true. Once we allow ourselves to feel whatever we're feeling. We can release it and then move on. There's nothing wrong with you for feeling sad or having a bad day. It's just part of life. Allow yourself to feel the spectrum of emotions. That's what makes us human. That's what lets us appreciate pure joy.

❌ Perspective shifts are powerful but can be hard to figure out on our own, which is why coaching is such an amazing tool to help you figure out it faster so that you're not spinning your wheels longer than you need to.

This is why I (@alysonpremo) created the 90 Day 1:1 Coaching Program! 90 days of getting you on a path to ditching alcohol and finding the real you that's been hidden under alcohol for far too long

🤚🏻 I'm now accepting applications for the end of the year and into 2022. I know the holidays can be tough to commit time-wise and financially, but what's even tougher is waking up on January 2nd, 2022, and realizing you wasted another two months because of EXCUSES.

How do you want to feel on January 2nd? Proud of yourself or miserable. The choice is yours.

Click here to apply before spots get filled and the price increases!