The ultimate life hack - ditching alcohol. By Alyson Premo.

Who agrees with me? 🙋🏼‍♀️

I don't care whether you occasionally drink, only drink on the weekends, have a glass of wine every night of the week - you ditch alcohol, and your life will improve.

Maybe some of you are saying, "but I have ditched alcohol, and I'm not sleeping, my energy is sh*t, I'm irritable as f*ck, and I've got all these problems to solve WITHOUT alcohol. How is this improvement?"

My love, your life WILL improve without alcohol, no question about that, but you have to give it a chance first. Putting down the bottle isn't a cure-all. That's a step, and be proud of that, but the biggest step lies in uncovering all the reasons why you were drinking in the first place.

Yes, there are short-term benefits to quitting alcohol, but most of what we're looking for are the long-term rewards.

The first two years of my sobriety were UNCOMFORTABLE AF. I was dealing with all the issues I created while drinking, trying to get my life back on track, and unraveling trauma.

In the meantime, I was driving back and forth to RI and CT, so my son could go to school in CT during the week, and we'd have a break from my mom at my house in RI on the weekends. Then I lived with my mom for a FULL year which was absolute hell when you haven't lived with anyone since you were 22, amongst all the issues that I already had with her from childhood. It wasn't easy, but I knew that alcohol wouldn't make it any easier.

I kept my eyes on the prize, and the gifts I'm receiving now from my sobriety almost five years later bring tears to my eyes. And maybe most of you reading this aren't at the horrific rock bottom I was at. But no matter how much you drink, alcohol impedes your progress in EVERY area of your life - relationships, motherhood, work, and most importantly, the quality of YOUR life.

Wondering how to stay consistent on this journey and get to the root causes of your drinking?

Check out the 90 Day 1:1 Coaching Program by me (@alysonpremo). I have ONE spot open for October, so if this post spoke to you, take that as a sign to apply by clicking here.

If you slipped already for Sober October, I see you, and it's ok. By Alyson Premo.

If you slipped already for Sober October, I see you, and it's ok.

But don't use that slip as an excuse to go right back to drinking and throw the rest of the month away. Use it as a lesson.

With Sober October in full swing, there may have been a lot of people just a couple of days ago who were super motivated and ready to commit to the next 31 days.

But that sneaky little wine witch already has you wondering...

👉🏻 "Why did I do this?"

Well, why did you decide to take a break from booze? Formulating a why for doing Sober October or going alcohol-free is crucial to getting through those tough moments or days because you will have them. Your WHY is the foundation, which is why it's the first lesson I teach with my 1:1 clients and Alcohol Free Challenge participants.

👉🏻 "I don't really have a problem."

You don't have to have a problem to take a break from drinking. But I will say that if you can't go 30 days without alcohol, you're more reliant on alcohol than you think. And that right there is a RED FLAG that shouldn't be ignored.

👉🏻 "No one will know if I break my streak or go back on my word."

YOU WILL KNOW, and that right there is the most important. If you continually break promises with yourself, you won't be able to trust yourself, AND you won't be able to build the confidence to show you that you can do hard things.

Were you committed at the beginning of October but are already seeing yourself justify and use excuses to drink again?

Join 39 other mothers and me for the 31 Day Sober Challenge - Ditch The Wine Witch for Sober October so that you can keep that commitment to yourself, boost your confidence by getting through situations you normally would've drank through, and be held accountable.

Accountability is the missing piece when you're doing it on your own, and that's why I'm a firm believer in coaching and challenges because you can't as easily talk yourself into having alcohol.

This was a last-minute decision, so I'm keeping the doors open until TODAY at 9 pm EST, but get in there sooner rather than later so you can get the support and meet other MOMS to guide you for the next 31 days and beyond.

Click here or message me with any questions you may have!

this is why you keep going back to alcohol. By Alyson Premo.

At the beginning of this sober journey, the wine witch is always lurking in the background and wanting you to give in "just this one time" or "just this one glass".

The wine witch or whatever name you give to the inner voice trying to sabotage your efforts is actually your subconscious mind - trying to keep you "safe". Crazy how that sounds, right? But your mind is super powerful, and its only function is to keep us alive, so anything out of our comfort zone is seen as a threat. 

Quitting drinking after relying on it for the last decade or more? Your brain is signaling danger zone because this is something new. It likes comfort, but we can't change how our mind thinks until we show it that it's ok. That yes, it's uncomfortable, but you are not going to die. 

**Putting in a little disclaimer here, though, alcohol withdrawal can be deadly, so if you're drinking excess amounts daily, please reach out to a medical professional.**

95% of what we do on a daily basis we're not even consciously thinking about. That's why it's so important to bring all the underlying root causes and thoughts into your conscious mind so you can work on them. You can't change what you don't know, which is why it's essential to be surrounded by support and a therapist or coach who can help you unravel what's really going so you can bring it to the forefront.

Do you keep going back to the destructive drinking cycle, even though you know that it's not serving you?

You've got something going on underneath that wants to keep you stuck in the same pattern. Until you work on that "something," you'll keep going back. 

Consciously you may not want to, but subconsciously it's keeping you safe and comfortable. 

Sick and tired of going back to the same drinking cycle again and again? The 31 Day Sober Challenge - Ditch The Wine Witch for Sober October is in full swing. 

This was a last-minute decision, so I'm keeping the doors open until tomorrow, but get in there sooner rather than later so you can get the support and meet other MOMS to guide you for the next 31 days and beyond. 

Click here or email me with any questions you may have!

P.S. DOORS CLOSE TOMORROW AT 11:59 PM EST!

Monday's without drinking are filled with... By Alyson Premo.

Monday's while drinking used to be filled with hangxiety, dry heaving, not wanting to get out of bed, and so much regret.

Monday's without drinking are filled with clarity, renewed energy, and accomplishment.

I'll take not feeling like death from my self-destructive BS any day.

Who's happy to be out of the drinking cycle, so you're actually starting the week off on the right foot instead of the dread of what the week will bring? 🙋🏼‍♀️

If you're waking up today from a weekend filled with regret, a raging hangover, and wondering why you just can't stop, then join 39 other mothers and me for the Ditch The Wine Witch for October - 2 Hour Group Coaching Event on October 1 from 5 - 7 pm EST!

By the end of the 2 hours, you will...

👉🏻 Become aware of your thought processes and triggers.

👉🏻 Have learned how to handle social situations without alcohol.

👉🏻 Be motivated and inspired to start off Sober October in the right frame of mind.

👉🏻 Have received tips and tools to help you when those cravings arise.

Come up with your WHY and resources to get your vision board created.

As of right now and for the foreseeable future, this event will be the ONLY way to access the signature 30 Day Alcohol-Free Challenge, so the event is well worth it just to receive the challenge alone for FREE! So if you've been waiting for the challenge, this is your chance!

Click here to register for this one-time-only event!

Looking for more personalized 1:1 support, accountability, and a judgment-free space to discuss how alcohol impacts your life as a mom and woman so that you can get rid of the limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck in this drinking pattern? Well, you're in luck!

I have TWO spots open for the 90 1:1 Coaching Program where you will break this habit loop, reverse the toxic cycle, and find the REAL you that's been hidden underneath the guise of motherhood and alcohol for far too long. This is application ONLY because it is a commitment time-wise and financially, and I want to make sure that you'd be a good fit before we start our time together.

To apply and schedule a brief chat, click here.

Doors close for enrollment into Ditch The Wine Witch for October on Wednesday., September 29, at 11:59 pm EST!

You can be a good mom and still struggle with alcohol. By Alyson Premo.

Many equate those who struggle with alcohol as those who don't have their "shit together" or who are "bad". That isn't true AT ALL.

You don't have to lose your kids, get a divorce, lose your job, go to rehab, or lose your home to have a problem relationship with alcohol. You can be an amazing mom, wife, and colleague and still struggle with alcohol.

Could you be more amazing without it? Absolutely and that's why this page exists.

But you don't need your life to be in shambles to question your relationship with alcohol.

I'm here to plant the seed BEFORE you get to a typical "rock bottom". I believe we all have our own unique rock bottom. You don't need to have the hardcore negative consequences to ditch alcohol for good. But to prevent the typical bottom, you have to start exploring your relationship with alcohol before you are ready.

I work with lawyers, therapists, women who work at top-notch universities, and business owners. Women who are successful and have their "shit together" on the outside, but on the inside, they were struggling.

As their drinking progressed, the alcohol was slowly but surely seeping its way into the areas of motherhood, relationships, and work, but that still didn't mean they weren't a good mom. It just meant they knew they could do better.

And that's why before they let it go any further, they said enough is enough and knew that NOW was the time to do something about it before they really did start losing people, things, or their own life.

Is it time for you to be the mom who is present, less irritable, and setting an example for your kids?

Join me for the Ditch The Wine Witch for Sober October - Group Coaching Event on October 1st from 5 - 7 pm EST!

Did you see? 👀

I'm giving you my signature 30 Day Alcohol-Free Challenge for FREE when you sign up for the event.

Click here to rreceive immediate access to the first bonus!

Do you work in the public eye, and being in a group isn't what you're looking for at this time? Do you desire personalized support to discuss your OWN unique needs and circumstances? If so, I have TWO spots open for 1:1 Coaching in October. Apply by clicking here or message me @alysonpremo.

All alcohol gave me was empty promises and false expectations. By Alyson Premo.

Sounds like a toxic relationship, right?

That's because the relationship you have with alcohol IS toxic.

I thought alcohol would make me...

• sexier

• happier

• confident

• more lovable

• connected

What alcohol really made me was...

• embarrassing

• anxious

• depressed

• angry

• disconnected

What it all comes down to is I didn't want to be me, and I used alcohol to change the version of myself I didn't like. Only to not like the version of myself when I drank either. 🤯

Talk about insanity. So I didn't like either version of myself but harmed my body, mind, and soul in the process. For what? A temporary 20-minute escape that would lead to me feeling worse about myself.

Take it from me. Don't let alcohol's false promises and expectations keep you going back for more.

Are you ready to break up with booze but don't know how? I've got you covered!

Join 39 other mothers and me for this one-time-only 2 HOUR LIVE GROUP COACHING EVENT on Friday, October 1st, 5 - 7 pm EST. What better way to start Sober October than with a group of 40 women ready to commit to 31 days of being alcohol-free.

Bring a mocktail, your favorite seltzer, an NA beer, hot tea, or whatever you desire that isn't alcohol. Come learn tips and tricks to ease your way into a month of no alcohol, get motivated, and receive coaching around your specific needs and concerns.

The first TWO who register will receive a FREE 30 minute 1:1 call ($150 value) with me (@alysonpremo) so that we can concoct a customized plan of action to get you through Sober October.

Click here to grab your spot before it's gone!

Are you more of a 1:1 type of person? Or have you done groups or challenges before and realize that in order to move past your roadblock, you need to talk through what's been plaguing you? You're in luck because I'm currently accepting applications for October, so click here, and once you've finished answering a few questions, I'll be in touch to schedule a brief chat!

P.S. There are SO many bonuses for this event. One of which you will have immediate access to when you join, and the others are a surprise!

Former party girl extrovert turned alcohol-free mom introvert. By Alyson Premo.

Who is a former party girl extrovert turned alcohol-free mom introvert?

Let me see those hands so others know they aren't alone. 🙋🏼‍♀️

Over the weekend, my son had a soccer tournament, plus he went to his friend's house on Friday night, and then he had a team soccer party on Saturday night. Holy fucking social life.

Let me tell you; I'm an introvert. I always thought I was an extrovert because of alcohol, but nope I'm not very "peopley" (I think I made that word up), and being around people all weekend long was super draining.

I despise small talk.

I'm not a fan of big groups.

And I'd much rather be in my bed reading a good book at 9:30 pm than out picking up my son and chit-chatting.

But guess what? I put on my big girl panties and did it. Was it not my favorite? Sure, but I didn't get sober to be in a bubble and not have my son experience what he enjoys and be around all his friends.

I am ok with who I am at the core. I used to be like, "why can't I just be like so and so who is so upbeat and talking to every person?" That's not me. I have so many other gifts to give to this world that not being a social butterfly doesn't phase me. It is what it is.

If without alcohol you're mourning your past extrovert self, I see you and hear you. It can be an adjustment, but deep down, that was never really you. We don't get this one life on Earth to be fake versions of ourselves.

You are meant for so much more than masking your true, authentic self with alcohol.

I'm concocting a 2 HOUR LIVE GROUP COACHING CALL to kick off Sober October on Friday, October 1st from 5-7 pm EST. All I can say is it's going to be epic.

Do you want to be a part of this alcohol-free party?

Click here to get on the waitlist to grab your bonus when registration opens!

Are groups not really your thing? Are you ready for personalized support so that you can get to the core issue of your drinking cycle? I'm currently accepting applications for the end of September, so click here, and once you've finished answering a few questions, I'll be in touch to schedule a brief chat!

Bad moments don't make bad moms. By Alyson Premo.

Bad moments don’t make bad moms.

I posted this in the Sober Mom Tribe Facebook Support Group, and I wanted to share it here, too, because it's an important topic.

P.S. If you're not in that group, you should be. Message me for how you can gain access!

When we first get sober, many of us have a lot of guilt and shame regarding our drinking days, especially when it comes to being under the influence around our kids and how drinking can impact us a mother.

I will always believe there's an extra layer of stigma for moms, which makes it harder for us to reach out because there's this perception that we don't care about our kids. Of course, we care. We were doing what we did at the time to survive, but now we know better, so now we choose to do better.

Notice when those thoughts surface and use these affirmations to interrupt the negative self-talk and redirect when that guilt comes creeping in 👇🏻

✨ I forgive myself for all the things I said or did under the influence.

✨ My past mistakes don't define me.

✨ I am a work in progress.

What do you do when the guilt from your drinking days starts to surface? Let us know in the comments!

I'm concocting a 2 HOUR LIVE GROUP COACHING CALL to kick off Sober October on Friday, October 1st from 5-7 pm EST. All I can say is it's going to be epic. 40 women. Tips and tricks. Motivation. Receive hot seat coaching from me (@alysonpremo), and I've got some surprises up my sleeve.

Do you want to be a part of this alcohol-free party?

Click here to get on the waitlist to grab your bonus when registration opens!

Are groups not really your thing? Are you ready for personalized support so that you can get to the core issue of your drinking cycle? I'm currently accepting applications for the end of September, so click the link in our bio, and once you've finished answering a few questions, I'll be in touch to schedule a brief chat!

Red Flags That You And Alcohol Have An Unhealthy Relationship. By Alyson Premo.

Red Flags That You And Alcohol Don't Have A Healthy Relationship

1. You

2. Are

3. On

4. This

5. Page

I want to preface this by saying I AM SO GLAD YOU ARE HERE. I'm so glad that you decided to trust your gut that something just isn't right between you and alcohol. Awareness is the first step to change, and we can't change what we don't know.

I wish there was a forum like this back in the day when I was struggling with alcohol. I thought I was alone. I thought I was a bad mom because I couldn't stop drinking. I thought there was something wrong with me.

There wasn't anything wrong with me. 

I was suffering from trauma, grief, anxiety, depression, and the overwhelm of single motherhood. I used alcohol to cope because that was the only way I knew how. It was socially acceptable to numb out the stressors of daily life. In fact, it's encouraged, and that's the sad part. 

We've been so conditioned to believe that alcohol is ok. That it can do no harm. Yet more people are dying per year from alcohol than opiates. So, where's the alcohol epidemic? That's right—profit over people. Big Alcohol thinks that if they put drink responsibly on the label that their hands are clean. 

Well, alcohol is set up to keep us wanting more, and for some of us, there is no off switch to drink responsibly. Actually, I'd say for MOST of us. 

I'm forever grateful for my struggle because it led me here. I'm no longer ashamed of what I did when I was surviving. But now I know better, and that's why it's my mission to bring my story to the world and spread the truth of what alcohol really does to us. 

I always said if I could help one person, then my struggle was worth it, and by now, I've helped hundreds if not thousands of women explore their relationship with alcohol and rid themselves of this toxic drinking cycle. 

Imagine if you all just helped one person see that living without alcohol isn't a punishment but a gift? Imagine what a world this would be?

Are you ready to help yourself so that you can make your imprint in this world?

Check out the 90 Day 1:1 Coaching Program by clicking here and applying!

Have questions about the program? Message me (@alysonpremo), and I'll happily answer them!

The moderation trap. By Alyson Premo

I hate to break it to you, but if you couldn't control your alcohol intake before your 30-day break, you're not going to be able to control it after.

Newsflash a 30 day, 60 day, or even 6-month break won't be the cure to going back to drinking moderately. Time and time again, I see this play out with challenge participants or people on my feed, and heck, I tried it for 3 whole years before I had to stop fooling myself and finally went to detox.

And there is no judgment from me whatsoever. I think sometimes we have to learn the lesson the hard way for it to finally register. And some of us are stubborn AF and want to prove others wrong and show them that we're the unicorn.

There's a reason why 99% fail at moderation when they couldn't moderate before taking a break. And there's science behind it, but I won't get into that in this post because there's only so much I can write before Instagram cuts me off.

My question to you is...

❌ If you're feeling so much better after taking a break, then WHY do you want to go back to drinking? What are you looking for from that drink?

And be honest with yourself. Most will say I want to have a glass of wine here or there in social situations, but WHY. What is that glass of wine giving you?

👉🏻 Relief of being uncomfortable?

👉🏻 Relief of social anxiety?

👉🏻 Being able to "fit in"?

👉🏻 Not having to have a conversation about you not drinking?

Whatever it is, start there and unravel what's really going on.

This is what I (@alysonpremo) help you do in my 90 Day 1:1 Coaching Program. We get to the root of the issue and program in a new story you tell yourself about drinking. Plus so much more!

The easy step is removing the alcohol. It's all the conditioning, self-talk, and decades of stories you've been telling yourself that are the hard part to undo, and you can't do that alone.

Click here to fill out the application and then I'll be in touch to schedule a brief chat, so keep an eye on your inbox!

P.S. Some of you have asked, "will you offer this program next month or 60 days from now?" The truth is, I don't know. Things change, and the programs I offer will start to differ in the future.