Why Mommy Doesn't Drink. By Alyson Premo.

Why Mommy Doesn't Drink

1. Because you deserve me at my very best

2. It's a poor example of how to cope with life.

3. It gives me anxiety.

4. It increases my sadness.

5. I don't want to miss any more moments with YOU.

The best thing you can do for your kids is to have a conversation with them about why you don't drink. Tell them how alcohol makes you feel and what it does to you. 

You finding out that alcohol isn't the way to cope with life is the best learning experience you can give to your kids. 

Maybe they saw you drinking more times than not. 

Maybe they say your favorite drink is wine. 

But this is your chance to turn it around. This is your chance to say "mommy made a mistake" or "mommy succumbed to peer pressure," or "mommy didn't know any better, but now she does".

This is how we change the view of alcohol. One person at a time using our story as a means to show others that alcohol isn't all that it's cracked up to be. 

That you heard alcohol is an acceptable coping mechanism and fell prey to the mommy wine culture, but now you know better. And now you know the actual effects of alcohol on our mind, body, and soul. 

Apologize for things you did under the influence and show them that it's ok to make mistakes. I always say these real-life lessons teach them more than school ever will, and it's the truth.

These are hard conversations to have, but they are important ones. 

Ready to show yourself and your kids that you are a better parent without alcohol?

DOORS ARE NOW OPEN for my signature Ditch The Drink - 31 Day Challenge starting February 1st!

31 days of audio lessons,

31 days of journal prompts,

31 days and more of connection,

and 31 days of gaining trust back in yourself.

AND if you join by TODAY at 1 pm EST, you can join us for a bonus group call valued at $247 for FREE. Hurry, hurry, hurry if you want to have your questions answered, talk with other moms who get it, and get encouragement to keep working through the challenging moments.

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You won't find happiness, patience, or fulfillment at the bottom of the bottle. By Alyson Premo.

You won't find happiness, patience, or fulfillment at the bottom of the bottle. But you will find sadness, anger, wasted time, regret, and guilt.

Those fleeting moments of euphoria aren't worth what's left at the bottom of the bottle.

I know you know this logically, but in the moment, your brain wants comfort. It wants to go to what you've always done to relieve your anxiety or stress. This is why it's important to pause before reacting. Pause before grabbing for that bottle of wine or that bottle of beer out of the fridge.

We can't change our behaviors until we become AWARE of our thoughts and actions. This is why the pause is important. It gives us a second to think about our choices.

The next time you automatically drive into the liquor store parking lot on your way home from work, or you grab for your glass of wine while cooking dinner, take a step back, and reflect on what's really going on. Why are you really grabbing for alcohol? Habit? Stress?

Whatever the case is, knowing that will help you to change the pattern for the future FOR GOOD.

Let's change your relationship with alcohol for good TOGETHER!

🖐🏻 Apply for the 90 Day 1:1 Coaching Program, where we dissect the beliefs and stories you've been telling yourself about why you can't let go of alcohol, discover who you really are without alcohol, and dedicate yourself to being the best mom and woman possible.

Click here to fill out a few questions, and then I'll be in touch to schedule a brief chat. -> -> -> @sobermomtribe

🎯 No wishy-washers need apply. This is ONLY for those who are ready to put in the work to a better life without alcohol.

Things to remember on your sober journey. By Alyson Premo

Things to remember...

You are constantly growing, learning, experiencing.

Your mistakes do not define you.

You are not on anyone's timeline except your own.

That last one, though. We tend to compare our journeys with others.

👉🏻Maybe it's that they're farther along than you - maybe in days they are, but healing isn't just about the accumulation of days. It's working on your inner world.

👉🏻Maybe it's that they're always smiling while you feel like you're more miserable than not.

👉🏻Maybe it's that you've gained weight, and they've lost.

👉🏻Maybe it's that your face broke out while they have glowing skin.

Whatever the case is, we tend to look at what's not going right for us compared to others. As a human, it's natural to do that, but it's not doing you any favors.

Focus on YOU and YOUR improvements.

I can guarantee that you have many. Heck, putting down the bottle alone is a huge accomplishment, so stop looking at the superficial aspects of this journey and start giving yourself praise for unlearning a toxic habit you've relied on for years or, in some cases, decades.

We also don't know what someone else's life is like OR what they are experiencing, OR what the beginning of their journey looked like. Most of the time, we see what others want us to see, NOT the real messy, chaotic parts, so keep that in mind too.

We all have our own timeline of healing and growth, so yes, praise others for their accomplishments but don't' forget to give yourself kudos too.

Are you ready to focus on healing your inner world and not just focus on the days you can accumulate on this sober journey?

Sober days mean nothing if you're not doing the work, and I can guarantee some of you out there are white-knuckling your way through and mamas that strategy won't last.

Let's dive into what's keeping you stuck on this journey and get rid of what's holding you back from your highest potential without alcohol.

I have ONE spot open for my 90 Day 1:1 Program for the foreseeable future. If this post speaks to you and you know you're ready to do the inner work, then apply by clicking here.

P.S. No wishy-washers need apply. This is ONLY for those committed to putting in the time and investment.

Dear wine memes. By Alyson Premo.

Dear wine memes,

I don't need alcohol to survive motherhood.

I need tea.. A nap. Support. A hug.

And reassurance that there is no such thing as a perfect mom.

Literally anything else BUT an anxiety-inducing substance.

It's funny until it isn't anymore. I used to think it's just a joke. There's no harm in laughing. The thing is, these memes are harmful because they perpetuate the narrative that mommy needs alcohol to survive motherhood.

For that struggling mom who has been drinking more due to the stress of motherhood, she uses those memes and her friends/society as justification that there's nothing wrong with her drinking behavior. The thought of, "If everyone else is doing it, then I must be fine."

Yes, alcohol gives you the quick fix you're looking for, but that's all it is. Temporary relief until that buzz goes away. Then you're back to being in the same situation you were in or sometimes worse.

Nothing ever gets better from drinking.

NOTHING.

Our problems are still there.

The overwhelm is still there.

The kids are still there.

And who knows, you may have added MORE issues to the mix by saying or doing things that you regret. And the anxiety the next day can be so crippling that you reach for the bottle again to get relief from that. And that mamas is how you start the cycle of addiction.

I was there. Using alcohol as my relief from the overwhelm, stress, and racing thoughts. It gave me comfort until it didn't anymore. I wish someone had told me that alcohol wasn't the solution. The solution wasn't at the bottom of the bottle.

The solution was to use healthy coping mechanisms like calling a friend, going to therapy, having a cup of hot tea, taking a nap, hiring a sitter, and reassurance that this mom thing is hard. No matter what you see. No mom has it all together all the time.

I literally needed anything else but an anxiety-inducing substance that made me feel even worse about myself as a person and a mother.

So if you're reading this, you too deserve a life without alcohol. You deserve support and mothers who are behind you whether you drink or not. This is why I (@alysonpremo) created Sober Mom Tribe and why I offer the programs I do.

I have ONE spot left for the 90 Day 1:1 Program for the foreseeable future. So if you've wanted to work with me to help you get out of this cycle, then NOW is the time.

Click here to apply.

Birthdays used to be another excuse that I HAD TO drink. By Alyson Premo.

Birthdays used to be another excuse that I HAD TO drink, and now they're a day I celebrate my life without a substance that would have cut my life short.

Birthdays have a different meaning when 5 years ago, you didn't even know if you'd make it to your next one.

But I remember that first sober birthday wondering how the heck I would celebrate without alcohol?

Would it even be fun?

Telling myself, what's the point of turning another year older without a substance that I thought gave me life?

Alcohol NEVER gave me life.

Looking back, I can't believe I ever thought these things because, at over 5 years sober, I know this simply isn't true.

How do I know it isn't true?

EXPERIENCE.

I've experienced all the "firsts" without alcohol.

I've experienced having wicked anxiety and my mind not going to alcohol to "cure" it.

I've experienced hard fucking days without alcohol.

I've experienced endless possibility and opportunity.

And that's all because I gave up alcohol.

I wouldn't be a leader of a sober mom community.

I wouldn't be coaching women to a fulfilling life without alcohol and now adding the Sober Mom Coaching Academy™ to the list.

I wouldn't be a mom doing the work to heal her own trauma so that she doesn't pass it on to her son. That right there is reason enough alone to ditch alcohol.

Our kids don't deserve to take on our pain.

So how am I celebrating my 38th birthday today? Getting a few work tasks done, a potential 1:1 client call, and out to lunch with my son.

A lunch that used to be filled with booze, and then I'd come back home and drink even more. I'd wake up the next day not remembering half of my birthday with a raging hangover.

Grateful doesn't even cut it for how I feel to be turning another year older without alcohol in my life.

This is possible for you too, but it won't happen overnight.

Stop quitting on yourself before it does!

Are you done quitting on yourself when it comes to this alcohol free journey?

I have ONE spot open for the 90 Day 1:1 Program where I guide you to a life where alcohol takes a back seat once and for all.

Apply by clicking here.

Looking to become a Certified Sober Mom Coach to guide other mothers to a place of alcohol freedom? Get on the waitlist by clicking here.

Sobriety isn't a race to see who can improve their life the quickest. By Alyson Premo,

I see this all too often, and I'm guilty of this myself. When we're in the beginning stages of our sobriety, we may compare our lives to those who are farther down the road in their journey. The thoughts of...

👉🏻I'm gaining weight, but all I see are women who have lost weight from being sober.

👉🏻She looks so happy, and I'm miserable.

👉🏻She started her own business, and I can barely attend to the basics of handling the kids and myself.

👉🏻Her skin is glowing, and my face is breaking out like I'm a teenager again.

👉🏻She's sharing her journey with the world, and I haven't even told my friends I had a problem with my drinking.

I'm sure many of you have said a few of these or others when it comes to comparing your day 1 with someone's year 2 or your year 3 with someone else's. But to be frank, you have to stop that sh*t! We all have different circumstances and levels of how dependent we were on alcohol.

The only thing that matters is YOUR journey.

The progress that you're making from one day to the next.

NOT comparing your progress to someone else's. We don't know their behind the scenes or story just like they don't know yours, so as they would say in school, keep your eyes on your own paper.

Keep striving towards the goals YOU want from becoming sober.

Having a hard time getting sucked into the comparison trap? 👇🏻

This is one of many topics we work on together in my (@alysonpremo) 90 Day 1:1 Program - From Detox To Dedication, where I guide you to a life where alcohol isn't even on your radar anymore.

I can guarantee that if you put in the work, the transformation you will see in yourself at the end of 90 days will be life-changing, but only you can find that out for yourself.

Click here to apply, and then I'll be in touch to schedule a brief chat!

P.S. Only ONE spot is open for the foreseeable future!

All you have to do is not drink today; that's it. By Alyson Premo.

Seems simple, right? It is pretty simple when you think about it, BUT it is not easy.

We tend to overcomplicate things and think about future holidays or social situations or the daunting "forever" word when all it is is focusing on not drinking TODAY.

That's it.

That's all of us are guaranteed in life anyway. So why focus on the what-ifs when we're not even there yet?

So let this serve as your reminder today to focus on the 24 hours you have ahead of you.

🔸Not this weekend.

🔸Not Valentine's Day next month.

🔸Not the Summer.

🔸Not any day except today.

With that said, quitting drinking isn't easy because it's more than not just picking up a drink

👉🏻It is unlearning a coping mechanism you've relied on for years or even decades.

👉🏻It is rewiring your brain.

👉🏻It is becoming conscious of why you turn to alcohol.

👉🏻It is becoming aware of your triggers.

👉🏻It is dealing with trauma or experiences from the past.

👉🏻It is being patient.

The real work begins when you stop drinking and realize that you drank to numb out from everyday life and what you will do without your crutch now.

You drank because...

🔸your spouse annoys you.

🔸your kids won't give you 5 minutes of uninterrupted time to let you just be.

🔸everyone around you is.

🔸you're sabotaging yourself.

This list could go on and on, but these are pretty common reasons. I hear it ALL THE TIME.

Yes, those reasons are valid, but grabbing that glass of wine is the easy way out. You're letting yourself get sucked in and stuck in that same cycle. You're not even giving yourself a chance to choose a different outcome.

The way to give yourself a chance is by choosing differently and becoming AWARE. Awareness is the first step to change. To change our patterns and behaviors., we have to become conscious of them first.

We talk about how to do this and so much more in the 90 Day 1:1 Program - From Detox To Dedication, where I (@alysonpremo) use my Sober Mom Method to take you from barely surviving to thriving without alcohol.

I have ONE spot open for the 90 Day Program, so if this post resonates with you and you're struggling, apply by clicking here.

Your children aren't your excuse to drink. They're your reason NOT to. By Alyson Premo

The mommy needs alcohol to parent narrative is utter nonsense and quite frankly ignorant and dangerous.

Yes, parenting is hard. Maybe one of the hardest things we'll ever do in our lives. But it is not an excuse to run to a toxic substance, check out, and potentially put our kids in harm's way.

I say this with the utmost compassion, and there is no shame EVER in this space. We already have enough of that from our drinking days, but it's the truth. Our kids are watching us, and they are absorbing their surroundings more than you think.

By the time they are 7 or 8 years old, they have a solid foundation of beliefs based on all the programming from people in their life. These beliefs get stored in their subconscious, so they react based on childhood experiences later in life.

It's clear from stories I hear from 1:1 clients and challenge participants that their mother or father's drinking impacted their own drinking behavior. It also affected how they view themselves. It's not impossible to change those deep-rooted thoughts, but it is hard work.

Our parents said or did things in our childhood that we would never realize impacted us, but now we're spending our adult life trying to rid ourselves of those beliefs. I wish schools stressed the importance of a developing child's brain and how we nurture them, speak to them, and raise them would impact them into adulthood.

Not only that, but we are teaching our kids to cope with life by running to alcohol. How sad is that? No matter what memes you see or what your friends and family say.

IT IS NOT NORMAL.

Let's teach our kids healthy ways to cope so that they have a better chance of not running to alcohol.

Whether you want to believe it or not, alcohol impacts the relationship you have with your kids. The longer you wait, the harder it is on you and them.

Ready to nip this drinking cycle in the bud before it gets worse? Because trust me. It always does.

I have TWO spots open for my (@alysonpremo) 90 Day 1:1 Program - From Detox To Dedication. This is for mothers who are COMMITTED to doing the work.

If that's you, then apply by clicking here, and I'll be in touch to schedule a chat!

Wasted mental energy of the back and forth. By Alyson Premo.

When you quit drinking, there's no more wasted mental energy going back and forth about how many glasses of wine you've had, keeping yourself in check, or justifying that next drink.

There's just living in the moment.

This is what life is about—living in the moment. 

I was speaking with a mom yesterday on a 1:1 call. 

By the way, I get a lot of content from mothers I speak with to show you that you're not alone. Chances are if they're struggling with a situation or thought, many of you out there are struggling with it too. 

But anyway, I digress. We talked about how when you're not drinking; you're not constantly worried about how many drinks you've had or if someone is going to know that you're drunk or the going back and forth of having "just one more". 

All of that noise is EXHAUSTING. 

Now that the option of drinking off the table, she can truly live in the moment and be present for it all. 

Some of you may be thinking, but I don't want to be present. I'm socially awkward, and I used alcohol as my social lubricant. Well, look at it this way; imagine how much more embarrassing and awkward you are when you get past the buzzed stage, and you're in the slurry, eyes glossed over, saying stupid things stage. I'd rather be socially awkward than look like a complete mess any day. 

And honestly, it's not that bad to be present in those social situations. You're strengthening your resolve and watching other people get drunk, which doesn't even appeal to you anymore. 

You become grateful to be sipping on an alcohol free beverage!

I've opened up TWO more spots for my 90 Day 1:1 Program to a mother who is serious about committing to an alcohol free lifestyle. This program is for those serious about dissecting and dissolving all the beliefs and stories that have been keeping them stuck in this drinking cycle. It's a very personalized and high-touch program where I check in with you EVERY DAY.

If this sounds like something you're looking for, then apply clicking here, and then I'll be in touch to schedule a brief chat to make sure this program would be a good fit for you!

Forgiveness. By Alyson Premo.

Say it with me.

"I forgive myself for using alcohol to cope with motherhood because, at the time, that was the only way I knew how."

As mothers, we are so hard on ourselves, from not having the cleanest house to feeling like a failure because our kids aren't behaving to feeling guilty using alcohol as our crutch in motherhood.

We drink most of the time because we let that guilt of not being "perfect" get to us, and all we want to do is numb out. Then we remove alcohol; we're left with all these feelings that we can't escape anymore.

One of the most common is feeling like a bad mom for drinking and all the things you did while under the influence.

👉🏻Feeling like a bad mom for not being present during our kid's youngest years.

👉🏻Feeling like a bad mom for missing out on specific events and significant milestones in our kids' lives.

The second time I tried to get sober, my son had to miss his kindergarten graduation. I felt horrible then and felt even more awful when I finally got sober once and for all a year later and had to relive that moment. I had to forgive myself for that moment because if I didn't, it would eat me alive, and I wouldn't be able to enjoy the sober life I have now with my son.

Those moments needed to happen to get to where I am today, and at the time, alcohol was the only way I knew how to cope with grief, overwhelm, and low self-worth. Now that I know better, I do better, and that's all I can do.

Beating myself up for things that happened in the past isn't going to help. In fact, for some people, it leads them to want to drink again, so forgive your past self for not knowing better and do better today.

These are the kinds of topics we dig deeper into in my (@alysonpremo) 90 Day 1:1 Program (From Detox To Dedication). This program is for those who do better in a 1:1 setting because they want a safe space to be seen and heard without flying under the radar. They want to be held accountable and get to the underlying issues of why they drink in the first place so that they can handle their triggers head-on and make a plan to overcome them.

Due to popular demand, I have opened up TWO more spots for January, so click here to apply or message me (@alysonpremo)!