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Give yourself credit for all the days you made it through without alcohol when you thought you couldn't. By Alyson Premo.

A theme I repeatedly see from challenge participants, my 1:1 clients, and mothers who I see on my feed is being so damn hard on themselves.

Stop beating yourself up, and start giving yourself credit for all the things you're getting through.

Like a difficult day at work.

Taking care of a sick kid.

Feeling like you're doing EVERYTHING in the household and being a mother in the middle of all the craziness in the world.

To those not drinking to deal with life, you are warriors!

You are CHOOSING not to drink through the challenges of life. You could take the easy way out and reach for a glass of wine (or bottle) every night, but you're not.

You're dealing with life head-on without the extra alcohol-induced anxiety and depression, mom guilt, regret, and showing your kids that you are there for them when they need you.

Because let's be real, kids are having a hard time right now, too, and they need us to be their constant when the world seems to be falling apart. When we're drinking, we're truly not there, and trust me, they know it.

Give yourself credit for making it through day after day without alcohol. It's an accomplishment to be proud of! Stop selling yourself short.

📚 Have you been listening to all the podcasts, joining all the free groups, reading all the quit lit, and still having trouble getting alcohol out of your life?

You're not alone.

Many believe that if we get all the resources and read all the books, we will change. And to some degree, that's true, but most of why we don't talk about our struggles with alcohol with others is because we're ashamed, and we feel that no one else will understand. I'm sure some of you have heard "your secrets keep you sick," and it's the damn truth. Talking about it dissolves the shame, and this is only one part of what we work on in coaching.

💥 I have ONE spot open for my 90 Day 1:1 Coaching Program. THIS is where we do the inner work so that alcohol becomes irrelevant. The truth is it's not about the alcohol. It's about why you're drinking in the first place. Until you get curious and work through that, you'll be going back to alcohol time and time again.

Apply by clicking here.

Alcohol has you duped. By Alyson Premo.

Alcohol isn't a necessary part of life.

We've just been duped into thinking it is.

We've been conditioned to believe that alcohol is the way adults get through life, and if you don't drink, you have a problem. Or that if you don't consume alcohol, that also means you're deprived of having fun are ridiculous.

Excuse my language, but f*ck those beliefs!

Who even started these beliefs? I'll tell you who our parents, our friends, our coworkers, the media, and society as a whole.

Alcohol isn't necessary to get through life. In fact, if you NEED alcohol to get through life, that's your first red flag that something may be a little off.

Stop following the crowd and educate yourself on alcohol. You'll be surprised at what you find, and it'll be an eye-opener that you've been duped for far too long.

It's time to take your power back and stop these beliefs from being passed down to your kids. Be the change-maker!

⚡️ Are you ready to be the change-maker for your family?

📚 Have you been listening to all the podcasts, joining all the free groups, reading all the quit lit, and still having trouble getting alcohol out of your life?

You're not alone.

Many believe that if we get all the resources and read all the books, we will change. And to some degree, that's true, but most of why we don't talk about our struggles with alcohol with others is because we're ashamed, and we feel that no one else will understand. I'm sure some of you have heard "your secrets keep you sick," and it's the damn truth. Talking about it dissolves the shame, and this is only one part of what we work on in coaching.

💥 I have ONE spot open for my 90 Day 1:1 Coaching Program. THIS is where we do the inner work so that alcohol becomes irrelevant. The truth is it's not about the alcohol. It's about why you're drinking in the first place. Until you get curious and work through that, you'll be going back to alcohol time and time again.

Apply by clicking here.

There is no better feeling than waking up the day after the Super Bowl without a hangover. By Alyson Premo.

There is no better feeling than waking up the day after the Super Bowl without a hangover.

I'll wait.

Who else feels refreshed at the start of this week rather than a hot mess dumpster fire with cotton mouth, crippling anxiety, and regretting things you said or did? 🙋🏼‍♀️

All my 1:1 clients had a successful Super Bowl in that they enjoyed it without drinking.

💥 One was AT the Super Bowl and didn't even flinch.

💥 One threw a Super Bowl party, and while she was nervous, especially at being a week into this journey, SHE DID IT!

💥 Another was hosting a small gathering with her family and enjoyed all the snacks and spending time with family.

I even received a few DM's yesterday from moms who said that it was MORE FUN sober.

What prevents most from trying this alcohol free lifestyle is they're scared they'll be boring, or they won't have fun anymore.

THAT'S NOT THE CASE AT ALL.

🚩 Is your definition of fun feeling like garbage the day after?

🚩 Is your definition of fun wondering what you said or did the night before?

🚩 Is your definition of fun checking out and missing out on memories with your kids?

🚩 Is your definition of fun beating yourself up once again because you drank when you told yourself enough was enough?

I SURE HOPE NOT.

Time to start taking a look at what fun is and what you consider boring.

Because boring to me is going through life doing the same thing day after day even though you know how much potential is waiting for you on the other side of putting down the bottle.

This belief is just one of many that we take a deep dive into in my 1:1 Coaching Programs. 1:1 Coaching isn't for everyone, and that's ok. There are many great free programs and lower cost memberships out there for you to take part in or try out. That's why I love where we're at in 2022 when it comes to sobriety - there are so many OPTIONS.

❌ If you've tried the free programs and have support but still aren't where you want to be, then consider applying for the 90 Day 1:1 Coaching Program - From Detox To Dedication, where I guide you to a fun and fulfilling life without alcohol.

Click here to apply.

We only have one life. How are you spending it? By Alyson Premo.

Who wants to spend their one life here on Earth thinking about drinking, drinking, or regretting you drank just because you don't want to deal with life?

Not me.

How can you appreciate the one life you have if you're constantly trying to escape it with alcohol?

What it comes down to is we only have one life.

Are you going to spend it constantly running, escaping, and numbing out? Or are you going to appreciate that negative experiences are just part of life because we can't appreciate the good without the bad?

⚡️ We don't know what joy is until we've experienced pain.

⚡️ We don't know happiness until we've experienced sadness.

Don't spend your time here thinking about drinking, drinking, or regretting you drank just because you don't want to deal with life.

Your one life is precious, and so is the time with your kids.

🌟 Imagine how much time and mental energy you are wasting.

🌟 Imagine what you could be doing with that time.

🌟 Imagine the moments you're missing out on because you're more concerned about escaping rather than dealing with it head-on and then moving on.

Don't waste any more time on a substance that doesn't add value to your life. You deserve so much more than the regret, mom guilt, and anxiety that's waiting for you at the bottom of the bottle.

Need a space to face your problems head-on and a guide to excavate the REAL issues underneath?

I have ONE spot open for the 90 Day 1:1 Coaching Program - From Detox To Dedication, where I take you from alcohol being the center of your life to nonexistent.

I know I'm biased, but the tiny shifts my clients are seeing are life-changing. Are you next?

Since this program is an investment and I only work with TRULY COMMITTED women, apply by clicking here.

I hope that if you've been trying and trying to get this alcohol-free life to stick and haven't yet that you'll consider reaching out. Coaching can be the difference to you finally being free from the grips of alcohol.

Gaining confidence on this alcohol free journey. By Alyson Premo.

Confidence on this alcohol free journey doesn't come from thinking about not drinking. It comes from actually not drinking.

You won't gain confidence on this alcohol-free journey unless you take action. You won't see that YOU CAN do this if you're constantly thinking about not drinking, but you keep drinking anyway.

It just doesn't work like that.

Most of the time, our thoughts are holding us back from even starting in the first place. We're stuck in those negative thought patterns saying things like, "I can't do this", "I'm a failure", "There's something wrong with me'. Instead, we need to be using affirmations like....

👉🏻 I am capable of removing alcohol from my life.

👉🏻 I am worthy of not drinking a toxin.

👉🏻 I deserve to be the healthiest version of myself.

👉🏻 I may slip up on this journey, but that means I'm trying.

See what a difference a couple of words can make?

We are so damn hard on ourselves, and we need to be more kind to ourselves. We should be building ourselves up more than anybody else.

If you can't be your own hype person right now, I get it. It's hard to switch your negative thought patterns overnight, and that's why I believe so strongly in community and support from others who are in the midst of the messy beginning, just like you.

This is why I created the 90 Day 1:1 Coaching Program - From Detox To Dedication. When those negative gremlins come creeping in trying to derail you, then that's where I come in as a coach to be your advocate and guide you through those moments so that if or when you have them again, you become stronger and can guide yourself through them.

It's important to have a safe space to bring all your fears, insecurities, and questions so that you can successfully get to the other side of this drinking journey, and that's what I provide.

I see it repeatedly, mothers saying they can do it on their own, and then a year later their back in my world with time wasted and an increase in my pricing.

YOU CAN NOT DO THIS ON YOUR OWN, AND YOU DON'T HAVE TO.

I have ONE spot open for the 90 Day 1:1 Program.

Apply by clicking here!

Are you proud of yourself? By Alyson Premo

Be proud of yourself for looking at your drinking and recognizing that it isn't serving you anymore. Many people lack this self-awareness, but not you, and that's a step in the right direction.

Do you realize that most people in this world don't even get to the level of self-awareness that you're at right now?

Yes, I'm assuming because you follow this account, but if you didn't think alcohol was a problem in your life, you wouldn't be on this page, so that's a step in the right direction.

Many will go through life following the crowd and not diving deeper into their habits and why they are the way they are, why they don't like to feel emotion., why they react rather than respond.

This is what I do with my 1:1 clients. We start to explore where your beliefs come from and what you can do to begin changing those belief systems. It's not easy to recognize your thought patterns and switch them, but the first step is to become aware of those thoughts, so that's a win.

We can't change what we don't know, right?

This is also why 1:1 coaching is so beneficial. You can't see what you don't know, and this is the whole point of coaching for me to guide you to those unknown places so they can be brought to the forefront and worked on so that you can ditch alcohol as your coping mechanism once and for all.

I have TWO spots open for February for the 90 Day 1:1 Coaching Program, and for those TWO mothers who sign up, you will also get FREE access to the 60 Day Alcohol-Free Challenge. That is a $347 value alone packed with content, audio lessons, and journal prompts. Honestly, this deal is a no-brainer.

I know I'm biased, but the tiny shifts my clients are seeing are life-changing. Are you next?

Since this program is an investment and I only work with those who are TRULY COMMITTED, apply by clicking here, and then we can chat to see if this program would be a good fit for you!

I hope that if you've been trying and trying to get this alcohol-free life to stick and haven't yet that you'll consider reaching out. Coaching can be the difference to you finally being free from the grips of alcohol.

Alcohol doesn't make parenting easier. By Alyson Premo.

The belief that alcohol makes parenting easier is false.

Who even came up with the notion that alcohol makes parenting easier?

Seriously, I want to know. When did this notion of drinking a substance to calm and relax us enough to be able to handle our kids pop up?

All I know is it's grown like wildfire in the past 5 years, but it's based on a lie. Alcohol DOES NOT make parenting easier.

Waking up with a raging hangover and having to deal with your kids. I remember those days. Barely making it out of bed, and if I did, I was hugging the toilet for dear life. Then I had my son saying, mommy, 50 times, and I reacted in a manner that I wouldn't have if I hadn't drank.

I was MISERABLE and taking it out on him. What's worse is that it was self-inflicted. He didn't do anything; he was just being a child.

I was irritable. Anxious. Tired. Feeling like a piece of hot garbage physically and emotionally. And no one else caused me to feel this way.

I DID IT TO MYSELF.

This belief that alcohol is the key to getting through motherhood is downright false. Sure, it may give you a temporary escape from the kids fighting, the constant laundry, and having to do it all. But what it really comes down to, though, is you're overwhelmed.

There are so many other things that you can do for yourself to make it so that you're not just putting a band-aid on how you're feeling but actually resolving the core issue.

If you're overwhelmed, don't run to a substance that will ultimately cause more overwhelm. Solve the real problem in the first place.

Get a laundry service.

Order your groceries through Instacart.

Have your significant other/friend/family member watch the kids so you can do something by yourself.

Set aside 30 minutes in your day to read, meditate, exercise, draw, or whatever activity you want that will recharge you and give you the space you need to decompress.

Give it a chance, and I promise you that you'll see alcohol isn't the answer to parenting.

I have TWO spots open for my 90 Day 1:1 Coaching Program, where I guide you to a place of alcohol freedom to where a nondrinker is just who you are.

Apply by clicking here..

Sober isn't a dirty word. By Alyson Premo.

I think some believe that sober means boring or just not living your best life because of restriction. But that couldn't be further from the truth.

With the sober curious movement in full effect, we've seen many other words pop up in place of sober.

👉🏻Dry

👉🏻Alcohol Free

👉🏻Teetotal

Are the 3 that have gained a lot of traction in the past couple of years or so. I think it has to do with people equating sobriety with a negative connotation. Like only the people who had some serious negative consequences are the "sober" ones. Hence why, other terms have popped up, like dry or teetotal, because they have more of an edgy and trendy feel to them.

Heck, I even use Alcohol Free for the 31 Day Challenge because it's more welcoming for those mothers who want to try out sobriety but don't necessarily right out of the gates want to call themselves sober.

All of this to say, I don't care what you call yourself or how you got to your not drinking path. Whatever works for you, keep doing. But I also want to point out that if you use sober, don't feel like there's anything wrong with you or that it's a dirty word. It's anything but!

Sober to me means....

✨Appreciating the good and the bad.

✨Finding out who you truly are without hiding behind a substance.

✨Finding joy in the mundane.

✨Going against the grain.

✨Being a f*cking warrior!

✨Staying true to your commitments.

✨Being honest with yourself and others.

Do those things sound dirty to you? They don't to me! That's why I am so damn proud to be a sober mom.

1905 days sober, to be exact.

Sober is a word filled with resilience, courage, and honesty. All the qualities I was looking for when I was stuck in the drinking cycle.

Are you ready to be proud of your alcohol free life? Then join the Ditch The Drink - 31 Day Challenge.

DOORS CLOSE TODAY for the February round, so if you've been eyeing it, now is the time. Click here to join!

Dry January is over, now what? By Alyson Premo.

So proud of everyone who even attempted Dry January!

👉🏻 If you slipped up once or twice or even for most of the month, what lessons can you bring with you for February?

💥 What were your wins for the month of January? Too often, we focus on all the things we did wrong instead of all the good we did. This is why in the 90 Day 1:1 Coaching Program - From Detox To Dedication, I give you session recaps after every session, and one of the sections is the wins you've had for the week. I want to keep reminding you of the progress you're making!

🖐🏻 What worked well for you in January that you will continue implementing into February?

The main point I want to get across is don't stop. Just because you may be feeling better, don't forget why you wanted to do a Dry January in the first place.

31 days of no alcohol is a great accomplishment, but there are no quick fixes on this journey of removing alcohol.

31 days is just the beginning of endless possibility for a better YOU.

❌ Dry January didn't go as you hoped?

❌ Are you left wondering how you're going to continue into February?

❌ Is the desire to drink still there?

If you said yes to any of these, I encourage you to check out the Ditch The Drink - 31 Day Challenge that starts TOMORROW!

OR apply for the 90 Day 1:1 Coaching Program by clicking here, where we go DEEP into why alcohol has been holding you back in life and how to get to the other side where alcohol isn't even on your mind anymore.

F*ck pretending to have it all together. By Alyson Premo.

I've built more relationships with people about being open about my struggle than I ever could have if I were still pretending like I had it all together.

Those superficial relationships built just on alcohol are old news. Give me substance and quality.

I don't need gossip, negativity, and drama, which I thrived off when I was drinking.

My life is messy sometimes, and of course, I'm not perfect because no one is, but these days I'm content with staying in my own lane, helping others, and building relationships with others who have the same values and interests as me.

Back in my drinking days, all I had was drinking. How sad is that?

Alcohol was my best friend, hobby, and it controlled my daily life. So, of course, I tended to surround myself with others who were drinking a lot because I needed that justification to keep alcohol in my life. But there was no deep connection there.

The connection was alcohol, that's it. And I"m not saying every relationship or friendship I had when I was drinking was superficial because that's not the case.

What I am saying is that if alcohol is the glue that's holding your relationship or friendship together, then when you remove alcohol, you're going to know.

People change. Lifestyles change. And that's ok.

But I promise you I've built better relationships and friendships from being honest and sharing my struggles, rather than pretending that I have it all together. So if you lose a friend or a significant other when you remove alcohol, there are so many other people who will be attracted to who you are - struggles and all.

This is a topic I discuss a lot with my 1:1 clients. If you're struggling with this, I invite you to check out the 90 Day 1:1 Program - From Detox to Dedication.

We talk through this issue and so many others so that you can be empowered by your decision to remove alcohol from your life instead of feeling like there's something wrong with you because there isn't.

I have ONE spot open for February! Apply by clicking here, and I'll be in touch to schedule a brief chat!

This is only for those mothers ready to put in the time and financial commitment!