The answer isn't in the alcohol.

The answer is in the feelings you're avoiding.

Why do most of us get trapped in this cycle? Because we don't want to feel.

We don't want to feel sadness, anxiety, grief, and all the so-called "bad" emotions. But that's all part of being human, right?

At a young age, I learned that crying was considered a sign of weakness. Big girls don't cry. Big girls handle their problems with a smile on their face. Sigh. It's unfortunate, but that's the way parenting was done back in the day.

All that resisting, avoiding, and suppressing isn't doing any of us favors in the long run. I was never taught how to handle these tough emotions, so later in life, I turned to alcohol to make them go away. What I didn't know was they weren't going away; they were festering and eating me alive.

I think many of us were raised the same way, which was to stuff our emotions inside. Thankfully through the years, a different approach to "just stay strong" or "you're fine" has been replaced by talking through feelings and actually feeling them. But a lot of us still don't like to feel.

Even when removing the alcohol, we think that there's a way to get rid of the negative emotions or bad days, but there isn't.

"The only way out is through." It's cliche, but it's so true. Once we allow ourselves to feel whatever we're feeling. We can release it and then move on. There's nothing wrong with you for feeling sad or having a bad day. It's just part of life. Allow yourself to feel the spectrum of emotions. That's what makes us human. That's what lets us appreciate pure joy.

Perspective shifts are powerful but can be hard to figure out on our own, which is why coaching is such an amazing tool to help you figure out it faster so that you're not spinning your wheels longer than you need to.

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